I split with my boyfriend of a year and explained that I’d fallen out of love with him. But, a month later, he keeps calling to ask why. I’ve got some things at his house but I can’t bear the hassle of getting them back. How can I make him stop badgering
This is a time when the written word works best. Tell him not that you don’t love him, but that you’re not ready for commitment. And isn’t that the truth? You need time and space alone to discover who you are. Make no promise of friendship or anything else, just thank him for an important year and wish him well. As for your things at his house, consider them the price of freedom and forget about them.
Q. I’m 23 and struggle with my weight. I feel hideously thin. It’s hard to find clothes that fit, let alone look nice. I try to eat well but my shift work makes this difficult. My doctor says I’m in good health, but I’m depressed. A.
Obsessing about weight in spite of a clean bill of health from the doctor usually means struggling for weight control to distract from deeper issues. For instance, the ‘shift work’ that you blame for your irregular eating habits— does it fulfil your ambitions? And how’s your social life? Something needs adjusting and it’s not your weight. Turn your back to the mirror. A lot in life is more important to control than dress size, and more rewarding too.
Q. How can I give my BF a hand job that feels just as good as the one he gives himself? A.
Ask him to show you what he likes. If he’s not comfortable (or you aren’t) masturbating in front of you, have him put his hand over yours while you touch him. That way you can feel what kind of grip and speed he prefers. Also, ask if he likes any extras—many men cup or stroke their scrotum. Not dating the vocal type? Experiment with touches and speeds, and pay attention to his
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