HOW TO BE THERE WHEN YOUR BESTIE GETS DIVORCED
You’ve nursed each other through hangovers, job angst, and family feuds. But a broken marriage? Very different. Be a good friend, with these tips from relationship expert Allison Pescosolido, founder of the Divorce Detox Program.
Spend the Night
Your friend is sleeping alone for the first time in forever. Bunking with her once a week will make the transition to living alone easier.
Plan a GNO
“It can be awkward attending couples’ events alone after divorce,” says Pescosolido. Weddings, holidays, and bring-a-date parties are especially tough. Be sensitive, and let her vent about how she’s feeling. If it’s an event she can skip, help her make alternate plans, like a girls’ night out.
Spiff Up Her Place
Offer to come over and help her pack some of her ex’s things so she won’t have to do it alone. Or go with her to pick out new linens and paint colours to help her start fresh.
Ditch the ‘D’ Word
Dating, that is. Wait until she brings it up to talk to her about the men in your life. “She may not be ready to hear about your great relationship or swinging love life,” says Pescosolido.
Offer to Babysit
If your friend has kids, she’s definitely missing the extra pair of hands her ex provided on a daily basis. Offer to babysit, and tell her she can go out or just enjoy some alone time—a hot bath or time with a good book feels like heaven on earth to a single mom.