HOW TO BE THERE WHEN YOUR BESTIE GETS DI­VORCED

You’ve nursed each other through hang­overs, job angst, and fam­ily feuds. But a bro­ken mar­riage? Very dif­fer­ent. Be a good friend, with th­ese tips from re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Al­li­son Pescosolido, founder of the Di­vorce Detox Pro­gram.

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Spend the Night

Your friend is sleep­ing alone for the first time in for­ever. Bunk­ing with her once a week will make the tran­si­tion to liv­ing alone eas­ier.

Plan a GNO

“It can be awkward at­tend­ing cou­ples’ events alone af­ter di­vorce,” says Pescosolido. Wed­dings, hol­i­days, and bring-a-date par­ties are es­pe­cially tough. Be sen­si­tive, and let her vent about how she’s feel­ing. If it’s an event she can skip, help her make al­ter­nate plans, like a girls’ night out.

Spiff Up Her Place

Of­fer to come over and help her pack some of her ex’s things so she won’t have to do it alone. Or go with her to pick out new linens and paint colours to help her start fresh.

Ditch the ‘D’ Word

Dat­ing, that is. Wait un­til she brings it up to talk to her about the men in your life. “She may not be ready to hear about your great re­la­tion­ship or swing­ing love life,” says Pescosolido.

Of­fer to Babysit

If your friend has kids, she’s def­i­nitely miss­ing the ex­tra pair of hands her ex pro­vided on a daily ba­sis. Of­fer to babysit, and tell her she can go out or just en­joy some alone time—a hot bath or time with a good book feels like heaven on earth to a sin­gle mom.

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