Ask Cosmo Anything
From random little issues to major life dramas, we’ve got your back.
Q. I’m dating a new guy and he’s great except that he’s somewhat of a slob when he eats. He gets food on his face, and sometimes on his clothes. It’s embarrassing! How do I get him to eat like a civilised adult?
A: Somewhat of a slob? It sounds like you’re dating Homer Simpson. Luckily, this is a problem that should be pretty easy to solve. It’s possible that he doesn’t know what a slob he’s being—hard to believe, we know. So he’ll probably appreciate your telling him as long as you do it by gently poking fun at him rather than scolding. Next time he’s wearing his dinner, say something like, “Has anyone ever told you that you eat like Cookie Monster? Because we need to have a little intervention.” He’ll either be genuinely surprised or will sheepishly agree. Either way, he’ll be open to working on it.
Q: I’m in a long-distance relationship—he’s American and we met during my visit there. We only had a little time together and have not seen each other for a year, even though we Skype and text regularly. I really care for him, but can it ever work?
A: A long-distance relationship is like a celeb crush—it’s based on daydreams and fan letters. Skyping and texting are planned and edited, so nothing ever happens on impulse or by chance between you both, as it does in other relationships. Instead of
using online communication to heat up mutual daydreams, use the time to discuss what you think about, who you are and who you want to be. Before committing yourself to a dream and a long-distance air ticket, find out more about him—and yourself, too.
Q: Last year I started seeing a guy just for sex. I vowed I wouldn’t let feelings get involved, but now I’m not sure. I love his smile and he’s got a great body. I keep telling myself we’re just friends. But how do I know what I want?
A: A woman needs to think hard before entering a relationship ‘just for sex’. It means no long-term plans together, no going out together in public, and that he’s free to fool around or fall for someone else. Emotions can blaze in spite of well-intended vows to keep them cool. Your feelings for this guy are heating up. If he really is the friend you say you want, then why don’t you invite him to places beyond the bedroom? Try sharing entertainments other than sex. And if he rejects platonic, friendly overtures, back off fast from ‘just for sex’ before your simmering feelings get badly hurt.
Q: How should I pick a pair of sunglasses that suits me?
A: Just like the perfect pair of jeans, the right sunglasses should show off your best features (and gloss over your less than perfect ones). As a general rule, choose styles that are the opposite of your face shape. For instance, if you have a square face, pick round frames to create curves. Long faces work well with wide frames, triangle faces look good with cat eye-sunglasses, and round face shapes look great with rectangular or squarish frames.
Lea Michele contrasts round frames with her square face