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Q. I’m dat­ing a new guy and he’s great ex­cept that he’s some­what of a slob when he eats. He gets food on his face, and some­times on his clothes. It’s em­bar­rass­ing! How do I get him to eat like a civilised adult?

A: Some­what of a slob? It sounds like you’re dat­ing Homer Simpson. Luck­ily, this is a prob­lem that should be pretty easy to solve. It’s pos­si­ble that he doesn’t know what a slob he’s be­ing—hard to be­lieve, we know. So he’ll prob­a­bly ap­pre­ci­ate your telling him as long as you do it by gen­tly pok­ing fun at him rather than scold­ing. Next time he’s wear­ing his din­ner, say some­thing like, “Has any­one ever told you that you eat like Cookie Mon­ster? Be­cause we need to have a lit­tle in­ter­ven­tion.” He’ll ei­ther be gen­uinely sur­prised or will sheep­ishly agree. Ei­ther way, he’ll be open to work­ing on it.

Q: I’m in a long-dis­tance re­la­tion­ship—he’s Amer­i­can and we met dur­ing my visit there. We only had a lit­tle time to­gether and have not seen each other for a year, even though we Skype and text reg­u­larly. I re­ally care for him, but can it ever work?

A: A long-dis­tance re­la­tion­ship is like a celeb crush—it’s based on day­dreams and fan let­ters. Skyp­ing and tex­ting are planned and edited, so noth­ing ever hap­pens on im­pulse or by chance be­tween you both, as it does in other re­la­tion­ships. In­stead of

us­ing on­line com­mu­ni­ca­tion to heat up mu­tual day­dreams, use the time to dis­cuss what you think about, who you are and who you want to be. Be­fore com­mit­ting your­self to a dream and a long-dis­tance air ticket, find out more about him—and your­self, too.

Q: Last year I started see­ing a guy just for sex. I vowed I wouldn’t let feel­ings get in­volved, but now I’m not sure. I love his smile and he’s got a great body. I keep telling my­self we’re just friends. But how do I know what I want?

A: A woman needs to think hard be­fore en­ter­ing a re­la­tion­ship ‘just for sex’. It means no long-term plans to­gether, no go­ing out to­gether in pub­lic, and that he’s free to fool around or fall for some­one else. Emo­tions can blaze in spite of well-in­tended vows to keep them cool. Your feel­ings for this guy are heat­ing up. If he re­ally is the friend you say you want, then why don’t you in­vite him to places be­yond the bed­room? Try shar­ing en­ter­tain­ments other than sex. And if he re­jects pla­tonic, friendly over­tures, back off fast from ‘just for sex’ be­fore your sim­mer­ing feel­ings get badly hurt.

Q: How should I pick a pair of sun­glasses that suits me?

A: Just like the per­fect pair of jeans, the right sun­glasses should show off your best fea­tures (and gloss over your less than per­fect ones). As a gen­eral rule, choose styles that are the op­po­site of your face shape. For in­stance, if you have a square face, pick round frames to cre­ate curves. Long faces work well with wide frames, tri­an­gle faces look good with cat eye-sun­glasses, and round face shapes look great with rec­tan­gu­lar or squar­ish frames.

Lea Michele con­trasts round frames with her square face

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