Secure, Not Stirred
You choose your moments to rely on others, and that’s good, says Robert F Bornstein, Ph.D., co-author of Healthy Dependency. You’re also there for your friends when they need you. “This is the optimal kind of dependency,” says Margaret Clark, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Yale University. “You can rely on your friends, but you’re not dependent.” You feel free to have adventures outside your group—that’s what feeling secure is all about.