Why the FIRST 20 MIN­UTES of a Date are EV­ERY­THING!

You’re swap­ping small talk and or­der­ing drinks, but you’re also ex­chang­ing cues about your po­ten­tial long-term match. Here’s what goes down.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST -

2 TO 4 SEC­ONDS IN

Your brain is work­ing two-fold to (1) judge his face for phys­i­cal ap­peal and (2) de­ter­mine whether he’d be a good per­son­al­ity match for you, a re­cent study on speed dat­ing found.

30 SEC­ONDS IN

Be­cause our an­ces­tors spoke with their bod­ies rather than lan­guage, we learn more from ges­tures than words when first meet­ing some­one. If he’s fac­ing you di­rectly, you have his full at­ten­tion. If he’s lean­ing in, his in­ter­est is up; his walls, down.

5 MIN­UTES IN

As your con­ver­sa­tion gets go­ing, you’re map­ping sim­i­lar­i­ties—in back­ground, val­ues, looks, etc. That’s be­cause, evo­lu­tion­ar­ily speak­ing, you’re more com­pat­i­ble with some­one who’s like you.

10 MIN­UTES IN

We’re wired to mimic those we find at­trac­tive, so con­nected cou­ples un­know­ingly mir­ror each other’s move­ments. If you’re drawn to him, you might start sip­ping at the same time.

20 MIN­UTES IN

Our an­ces­tors wouldn’t ac­cept food from a stranger, so shar­ing plates on a first date shows trust, which is key for the foun­da­tion of a strong bond.

It was love at

first sug­ar­loaded bite...

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