Make Sex HOT­TER

You get your car tuned up and hardly ever skip a den­tal clean­ing. But there’s no re­minder in your cal­en­dar to recharge your sex life! These moves will turn up the heat, whether you’re newly dat­ing or to­gether for­ever.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST - By Zoe Ru­d­er­man

JUST STARTED DAT­ING?

Ah, that new-car smell. So fresh and un­known. The down­side—you haven’t quite fig­ured out each other’s me­chan­ics. Even if sex is more

fre­quent than Two and a

Half Men re­runs, there’s room for im­prove­ment. “Set a prece­dent and make sure you come first. Women of­ten fo­cus on their guy’s or­gasm, and treat them­selves as an af­ter­thought. Since we’re all crea­tures of habit, do­ing the re­v­erse can pay off in the long run.”

—sexologist Jes­sica O’Reilly, Ph.D.

“I started see­ing some­one more ex­pe­ri­enced, so to al­le­vi­ate awk­ward­ness, I im­me­di­ately asked him what he liked. That made him com­fort­able to tell me what worked, and he asked me the same. Soon, we’d shifted our tech­niques to­wards each other, so sex was amaz­ing. It brought us closer too.” —Ishita S., 19 “I ask, ‘What’s some­thing you’ve never done in bed but want to try?’ What­ever we do won’t get com­pared to an ex.” —Katie G., 30 “Don’t fake it. He’ll keep do­ing the thing that didn’t work. Get started the way you want him to con­tinue, even if it’s awk­ward.”

—sex ed­u­ca­tor Char­lie Glick­man, Ph.D. “My go-to po­si­tion with a new guy is girl-on-top, lean­ing back, grab­bing his an­kles be­hind my back. It’s flat­ter­ing—flat abs, perky boobs—so I can en­joy my­self, not think about my flaws.”

—Akriti M., 33

Wait... WHAT IF YOU’RE LONGDIS­TANCE?

Pros: go-time. when Cons: you those see each long other, stretches it’s in be­tween and at­tempt­ing phone sex when you feel ridicu­lous de­scrib­ing your vagina and what you’re do­ing to it. “Learn to talk dirty; draw in­spi­ra­tion from books or movies. A few strate­gic words can create greater sex­ual in­ten­sity than a phys­i­cal touch or tech­nique.”

—Jes­sica O’Reilly “I sent my boyfriend lin­gerie and told him it was for when I came to visit the fol­low­ing week.”

—Pia M., 24 “Write an erotic story for his eyes only. Make up char­ac­ters (they could be named af­ter you), and put them in sexy sit­u­a­tions. If pos­si­ble, ac­tu­ally post it in­stead of e-mail­ing it! ” —Jas­mime N., 31 “I swear by bath sex! I’ll put him on speaker and leave my phone near the bath, then get to it.”

—Neha S., 29 “Get ready for a phone date the same way you’d get ready for a real date, so you feel hot.”

—Char­lie Glick­man “My boyfriend trav­els a lot, and I started sleep­ing in our guest room when he was away. It kept our bed feel­ing like our spe­cial sexy place.”

—Sus­sane H., 32 “We’d start off with texts—then talk dirty on the phone. By then, we’d be more than ready to Skype. Hot.”

—Preeti M., 27

YOU’RE SHACKED UP OR MAR­RIED

You’re both play­ing a lot of roles in the re­la­tion­ship, and not the sexynurse/pa­tient ones. More like room­mates, fi­nan­cial part­ners, or co-par­ents—all things that can push sex to the back burner. Cre­at­ing dis­tance helps re-ig­nite your cu­rios­ity. “My hus­band saw some guy chat me up at a bar, and when we got home, we had this crazy- hot sex. It was like see­ing that other men are at­tracted to me made him want me even more.” —Jess K., 29 “I watch a lot of erotic videos. They’re ex­plicit, but the con­nec­tion turns me on.” —Priyanka M., 31 “Go to din­ner sans panties, but don’t let him find out un­til you’re at the ta­ble. Cou­ples of­ten get dressed in front of each other, so sur­pris­ing him in pub­lic can be es­pe­cially thrilling.” —Jes­sica O’Reilly “Break out the blind­fold, but use it on your­self, not him. It will heighten your other senses and re­in­force a sense of curi os­ity about his body, some­thing that’s lost af­ter you’ve seen your guy naked a thou­sand times.” —Tanvi G., 26 “Keep one-up­ping your­selves. Once a month, brain­storm some­thing you’ve never tried, and do it. I once heard a cou­ple of 40 years say they’ve been to­gether for so long be­cause they just keep get­ting kinkier.”

—Char­lie Glick­man “Our life feels like it’s turned into one er­rand af­ter an­other, so we’ve started as­sign­ing sex acts to er­rands. His go­ing down on me equals gro­cery store, so now I love our trips to the lo­cal su­per­mar­ket.”

—Jay­ati C., 30

“Talk dirty, but out­side the bed­room. Cou­ples at this stage make the mis­take of only do­ing this in bed, and it can start to feel re­hearsed. So whis­per some­thing wicked in his ear at a restau­rant, while gro­cery shop­ping, any­where.” —Jes­sica O’Reilly

“Role-play as soon as you walk in. Cou­ples tend to re­cap their days, and it’s hard to feel foxy af­ter vent­ing. Com­ing home as ‘some­one

else’ fixes that.” —Rad­hika S., 28 “Watch him make a work pre­sen­ta­tion. Or do any­thing else he does well, es­pe­cially if it’s in front of other peo­ple. It’ll re­mind you why you fell for him, and it’s a turn- on to know you get to go home with him.”

Damn...she

knew she should have shaved that

morn­ing!

Put on hold by cus­tomer care...23 min­utes and count­ing!

Pity, the cake was go­ing to

burn...

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