YOU BE­COME A FAUXPERT

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST -

That’s short for ‘ faux- ex­pert’— as in, you think you know ev­ery­thing about a per­son with­out ac­tu­ally meet­ing them. “Of­ten, the first im­pres­sion you get of some­one online is false, be­cause the in­for­ma­tion is in­ac­cu­rate,” says Aus­tralia- based match mak­ing ex­pert Trudy Gil­bert. “You can form an un­jus­ti­fied and un­re­al­is­tic view of some­one, which isn’t fair.”

Im­ages run the big­gest risk as there’s no con­text. For ex­am­ple: say a guy asks you out then you find a pho­to­graph of him dressed up as Darth Vader. It might have been for his seven- year- old nephew’s birth­day party, not a nerd con­ven­tion as you first thought. Even worse, when you think you kinda al­ready know the guy well ( and in this case, you re­ally don’t), you can end up de­vel­op­ing feel­ings for him. For in­stance, see­ing that he also loves dogs may make you like him be­fore you even meet, which changes how you in­ter­act with him ver­sus a com­plete stranger who you will slowly get to know.

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