Cosmopolitan (India) - - YOU, YOU, YOU - by Sherry Ar­gov

Th­ese lessons from Sherry Ar­gov’s best-sell­ing book will not only amp your con­fi­dence, but also en­sure you’re in con­trol of any re­la­tion­ship.

1. Bitch ( noun): A woman who won’t bang her head against the wall ob­sess­ing over some­one else’s opin­ion—be it a man or any­one else in her life. She un­der­stands that if some­one does not ap­prove of her, it’s just one per­son’s opin­ion; there­fore it’s of no real im­por­tance. She doesn’t try to live up to any­one else’s stan­dards—only her own. Be­cause of this, she re­lates to a man very dif­fer­ently.

2. If you feel a man is los­ing in­ter­est in you, take a step back and never nag. Ac­cord­ing to Sherry, a lit­tle dis­tance com­bined with self-con­trol makes guys ner­vous that they may be los­ing you, and will make them want to pur­sue you. Nag­ging is a sign of weak­ness, which changes the re­la­tion­ship equa­tion.

3. If you’re an­noyed about some­thing he’s done, don’t get into a whiny heart-to-heart. In­stead, use your ac­tions to ex­plain that things are not okay.

4. When a man sees you are happy with him but you can be just as happy with­out him, that’s when he won’t want to leave your side. When you are happy, you are sexy.

5. The guy must feel that you chose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.

6. Re­mem­ber that men don’t re­spond to words. What they re­spond to is ‘no con­tact’.

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