Said No Guy Ever (...except these three dudes)
Ever look at your man and wonder what’s going through his head? We asked three guys to keep a diary about their love lives, so that we could find out!
8am - Woke up thinking about MS. We had a great night and she was really funny, interesting, and looked hot too. Maybe she’ll be the one who’ll stick?
3pm - MS just sent me a text. Her parents are visiting the city and she wants us all to go out for dinner so they can “get to know me”. It’s a big step. I reply saying that I’ll check to see whether I’m free and will let her know.
9am - Oops. Realise I forgot to text MS back about dinner with her parents. I send her a text to let her know that dinner works for me. She’s pretty cool, so let’s hope her parents are too! *He hasn’t got back to her right away because he’s not realising the significance of dinner with the parents. He thinks it’s the same as any normal date.
7pm - MS and I go out to see a movie. She seems excited about me meeting her parents tomorrow and it makes me feel excited too—so much so that I let her drag me to see a romantic comedy. I’d never admit it to her, but actually it was pretty funny! *Some good signs here for MS. He’s prepared to meet her parents and seems excited. It suggests he’s keen and sees long-term potential.
2pm - Dinner with MS and her parents. They’re surprisingly nice and we’re having a great time—till her mum starts talking about us visiting them in Delhi for Diwali. Diwali! That’s months away. I haven’t really thought about where MS and I will be in a few weeks. I hope they don’t notice my shock. Even so, we end up having a nice night, particularly because her dad picked up the bill! *He’s done well with meeting the parents but now has to think about a longer-term commitment. He’s feeling a bit overwhelmed by that, and things are starting to move quickly for him.
8am - Wake up to a text from MS. Apparently I made a good impression, and her parents like me. I feel a bit anxious about how fast this is going, but then remind myself how much I like MS.
9pm - Night out with the guys. When they ask why I wasn’t at the club last night, I make up an excuse about having a hot night in with MS. If I say I’ve met her parents already, they’ll never let me hear the end of it.
10am - Feeling really hungover and have no Disprin in my apartment. Think about calling MS to see if she’ll bring some over out of sympathy, but decide against it in the end.
7:30am - I hit the gym and am doing some free weights when a total babe stands next to me at the mirror. She starts chatting with me and suddenly we’re openly flirting and laughing. But I feel guilty, so I make an excuse and move over to the treadmill. *He’s torn between flirting with a new woman and being committed to MS, but he makes the right decision and moves away. He’s more keen on seeing what happens with MS.
1pm - Lunch with MS. She’s wearing a red dress and red lipstick, and she looks so hot I can barely concentrate on my food! I even notice other guys checking her out, which makes me proud. She clearly wants to be with me, after all. We arrange to meet up for drinks later, and as I say goodbye I realise how excited I am that I’ll be seeing her again in a few hours.
7am - I’ve barely woken up and Mariam’s asking me to clean up the clothes I’ve left on the floor. I try not to make a crack about her make-up that’s all over our bedroom.
8am - I’m at work and I get a cute e-mail from Mariam, telling me how much she loves me. I know she does, but it’s always nice to hear. We end up going back and forth writing sweet things to each other. It feels like it was yesterday when we first got together.
9pm - We go out for dinner to our favourite restaurant and decide to go all-out on three courses. Mariam doesn’t hold back—I love that she loves to eat. My ex would only ever order a plain salad or soup.
7pm - I’ve had a really stressful day and don’t feel like talking when I get home. All I want to do is watch TV and go to bed, but Mariam wants to talk about getting a new apartment and where we’re going for our next holiday. I end up snapping at her and we have a fight. She goes to bed and I sit on the sofa, feeling guilty. *He needs 20 minutes downtime before connecting to Mariam—that way both get their needs met.
10am - I still feel bad about last night, but it annoys me that she pushes me to talk when I’m obviously not in the mood. I ignore a text she sends me. I get home from the gym and Mariam has cooked my favourite meal, so I know we’re in for a ‘real chat’. She apologises for last night and says she feels confused when I go quiet sometimes. I immediately feel bad. She’s open with exactly how she’s feeling. I guess she doesn’t understand that I’m just not like that. We go to bed happy, and I realise how much I love her and how I could never not be with her. *He’s happy that they have talked through this situation and he’s thinking that maybe this won’t keep occurring again in the future. He’s got an understanding about how she feels.
2pm - We hit the mall to do some shopping and Mariam finally lets me buy the new TV I’ve been after. The next thing I know, I’m in Zara while she tries on about 10 black dresses—that all look the same! She asks which one was my favourite and I gamble by telling her the one with the zip. Luckily, she smiles and tells me that one was her favourite too.
3pm - Lisa, a girl I met at the gym last week, calls. It’s a bit awkward because I am at work and wasn’t expecting her to actually call— usually it’s all about texting and e-mails. She’s in training to run a marathon and asks if I want to go for a run with her tomorrow. I’m not sure whether it’s a date or not.
9am - Lining up to get my lunch at Cafe Coffee Day downstairs from work, I get chatting with the girl in the queue in front of me. She’s cute, and she keeps touching my arm—but before I have a chance to pull myself together enough to ask her for her number, my order
is ready and I have to move away. Hope she’s there again tomorrow.
8pm - I meet Lisa for a run and wow—she’s fast. I thought I’d be able to outrun her easily, but I’m so, so wrong. Feeling a bit embarrassed, I try to hide how out of breath I am. We hit a juice bar afterwards and I suggest dinner next week.
9am - The girl from the coffee place yesterday isn’t there, and I’m actually a little disappointed—maybe she’ll be there tomorrow.
11am - Get a text from Lisa checking to see how I am after last night’s run. Obviously I didn’t hide my exhaustion as well as I’d thought! I am glad to hear from her though.
2pm - Get a follow-up text from Lisa saying that she’s excited about dinner. I am a bit weirded out that she’s texted again already. *He’s now thinking that she’s too keen. The texts seem to keep on coming, and he’s starting to feel a little trapped.
7am - Wake up to another text from Lisa, which says “Good morning”. I feel a bit disappointed, because she’d seemed so cool, but now she’s coming across as clingy. I’m starting to think about how to get out of dinner plans with her. *It’s now become a real concern for him—and he’s thinking it’s time to get out of future plans. She wants him more than he wants her.
1am - The guys and I are out having a few drinks and playing pool. After a few too many, I end up texting Lisa suggesting dinner tomorrow. As soon as I’ve done it, I regret it, but I suppose one dinner can’t be too bad. *He falls into the trap of dialling when drunk and wanting some female company. He doesn’t seem to realise that doing this is going to hurt her and lead her on.
9am - The girl from the coffee place earlier this week is there. She’s flirting with me again (I think), and so I suck it up and ask for her number. She laughs and tells me that she doesn’t think her boyfriend would approve. What? Why do girls do this—chat you up, giggle and lead you on, for nothing?
8pm - Lisa and I meet for dinner. She’s texted twice today to check our plans, which made me nervous. I just wanted a relaxed, casual meal, We have an okay time and I tell her I’ll
get in touch soon.
11am - Lisa has texted twice already today to find out when we’re going to go out again. All this pressure so early on is freaking me out. Not a good sign. *His fears are true; she’s too clingy and needy and he wants to run.
6pm - I have a drink with my best female friend and tell her about what’s been going on with Lisa. She says if I’m not too keen I have to be honest, so I send Lisa a text message explaining that while she’s a really nice girl, I’m just not ready for a relationship. *He’s scared of having a face-to-face conversation with her, so he takes the soft option by texting to break up with her.
9am - I wake up glad that I let Lisa know how I was feeling. I don’t want to lead her on, so I think it’s best to end things now, before she starts expecting more.
‘Dear diary, today was a furry day...’
He was struggling a bit with his
He wasn’t getting the synonym for hate!
He kept his
feelings very, very