Make Your Part­ner a Real Part­ner

Suc­cess Se­cret #2

Cosmopolitan (India) - - CAREER -

I truly be­lieve that the sin­gle most im­por­tant ca­reer de­ci­sion a woman makes is whether she will have a life part­ner and who that part­ner is. A woman who can find some­one who is will­ing to share the bur­dens—and joys—of home life will go fur­ther in her work life. In the past 30 years, women have made more progress in the work­force than in the home. When a hus­band and wife both work full-time, the mother does 40% more child­care and about 30% more house­work than the fa­ther. So while men are tak­ing on more house­hold re­spon­si­bil­i­ties, this in­crease is hap­pen­ing very slowly.

This has to change. Just as we need to en­cour­age women to lean in to their ca­reers, we need to en­cour­age men to ‘lean in’ to their fam­i­lies. If we ex­pect and al­low them to do more, they will do more.

When hus­bands do more house­work, wives are less de­pressed, mar­i­tal con­flicts de­crease and sat­is­fac­tion rises. In fact, the risk of di­vorce re­duces by about half when a wife earns half the in­come and the hus­band does half the house­work. For men, par­tic­i­pat­ing in child

When a hus­band and wife both work full-time, the mother does 40% more child­care and about 30% more house­work than the fa­ther.

rear­ing fosters the de­vel­op­ment of pa­tience, em­pa­thy and adapt­abil­ity, char­ac­ter­is­tics that ben­e­fit them in all re­la­tion­ships. For women, earn­ing money in­creases their de­ci­sion­mak­ing abil­ity in the home, pro­tects them in case of di­vorce, and can be im­por­tant se­cu­rity in later years, as women of­ten out­live their hus­bands. Also, cou­ples who share do­mes­tic re­spon­si­bil­i­ties have more sex. The best way for a man to make a pass at

She made sure they al­ways saved the most comfy seat for her!

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