3 You Don’t Know How to

The me­dia treats dat­ing like a ten­nis match—one in which women are al­ways cast as the losers. Sin­gle men, mean­while, are the vic­tors, feast­ing on their many dat­ing op­tions, revel­ing in their bach­e­lor free­dom, get­ting all that milk for free.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST -

Be­cause of this, there’s a ten­dency for a girl to be on the de­fen­sive. He post­poned a din­ner date? Failed to call at the ap­pointed time? Then, sis­ter, you are outta there! To win at love, women feel they must put them­selves on a pedestal— de­mand­ing free din­ners and ac­cept­ing only dates booked far in ad­vance. Lost in all this de­fen­sive dat­ing is the fact that men and women are both look­ing for the same thing: a part­ner in this con­fus­ing life. So how do you know if you’re mak­ing ex­cuses for a douche bag or be­ing harsh about a guy who’s just a lit­tle for­get­ful? For me, the best guide was ‘How does he make you feel’? Was that thought­less re­mark a fluke from a guy who’s gen­uinely into you or does it set off alarm bells? Any­way, maybe you will mis­judge a guy who turns out to be a rat. But in­stead of bur­der­ing your­self with too many rules, isn’t it braver to date know­ing you could get hurt but you will sur­vive?

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