3 You Don’t Know How to
The media treats dating like a tennis match—one in which women are always cast as the losers. Single men, meanwhile, are the victors, feasting on their many dating options, reveling in their bachelor freedom, getting all that milk for free.
Because of this, there’s a tendency for a girl to be on the defensive. He postponed a dinner date? Failed to call at the appointed time? Then, sister, you are outta there! To win at love, women feel they must put themselves on a pedestal— demanding free dinners and accepting only dates booked far in advance. Lost in all this defensive dating is the fact that men and women are both looking for the same thing: a partner in this confusing life. So how do you know if you’re making excuses for a douche bag or being harsh about a guy who’s just a little forgetful? For me, the best guide was ‘How does he make you feel’? Was that thoughtless remark a fluke from a guy who’s genuinely into you or does it set off alarm bells? Anyway, maybe you will misjudge a guy who turns out to be a rat. But instead of burdering yourself with too many rules, isn’t it braver to date knowing you could get hurt but you will survive?