There’s nothing wrong with working through your issues. The problem arises when you try to eradicate all your hang-ups as a prerequisite to finding a relationship. Let’s face it: if everyone had to shed their psychological baggage before finding a partner, there would be a lot more unattached people in the world. As I’m sure many of your partnered friends demonstrate, it’s very possible to be in a happy relationship even if you get anxious at parties or hate your thighs. Sure, there are those whose emotional issues—from small intimacy fears to full-blown personality disorders—are challenging, but they can often be worked through if you and your partner are truly committed to your health. Think about it this way: what if your only issue is the belief that you have issues and that they’re keeping you from a relationship? What if you stopped defining yourself as someone with a bad-boy addiction or low self-esteem? What if you instead saw yourself as a flawed but lovable human being? What if the only reason you’re alone is because you just haven’t met the right guy yet?
“And You Don’t?!”
Kristen Wiig in Bridesmaids doesn’t let issues come in the way