I’m now recovering from major anorexia, and have recently started to socialise. I’d like to meet new men, but I have no idea how to approach them. How do I become more confident?
To recover from anorexia requires honesty and determination—you should be proud of yourself. When approaching a new guy, it’s a safe bet that, like most of us, one of his favourite topics is himself, so greet him with genuine curiosity. Ask him his views on everything, from music to football to the recent Delhi elections. And remember to listen to him carefully. Is he a player or a serious contender for your interest? Focus on what you think about him, without worrying about what he thinks of you—that’s up to him.
Q: I met a guy at a club a few weeks ago and we got on really well. Then I found out he’s only 18—I’m 23! I’ve been single for two years, and have felt nothing like the connection I have with him. But I feel wrong. Should I date him? A:
When you were only 12 and he was seven, the age difference would have been insurmountable. But you’re both grown-ups now, and a few years matter far less than differences in belief or temperament. You both have all the time in the world, so let the relationship take its shape naturally.
Q: I can’t stop thinking about my husband’s sexual history. I keep