WHAT HE’S REALLY TRYING TO TELL YOU
He says “Before I forget to tell you...”
He actually means He is trying to soften the impact of what he is about to say because he knows you may get upset. So he makes it seem unimportant by implying that it just popped into his head.
He says “To be totally honest...”
He actually means He had not been completely honest with you up until this point in the conversation, but what he is about to say will be the truth.
He says “I don’t want to hurt you, but...”
He actually means He knows what he is about to say will hurt you, so he’s trying to lessen the guilt he’s going to feel in telling you. It’s more about him than you.
He says “I only had two beers.”
He actually means He’s using the word only to downplay the fact that he drank a lot more than he’s willing to admit.
He says “Do you know what I mean?”
He actually means He is not a hundred percent confident in what he is saying and is now looking for your validation or approval.