What’s Nor­mal, What’s Not

In­ter­roga­tors know that most com­mu­ni­ca­tion doesn’t come from our words but rather from the sub­tleties of our body lan­guage. Here’s how to lis­ten with more than your ears...

Cosmopolitan (India) - - YOU, YOU, YOU -

Nor­mal Happy, en­gaged peo­ple main­tain good eye con­tact through­out the ma­jor­ity of the con­ver­sa­tion, al­though the oc­ca­sional break is per­fectly nor­mal.

Not A lack of eye con­tact im­plies ev­ery­thing else is more in­ter­est­ing than you. De­cep­tive peo­ple may avoid look­ing at you...or overdo it so much, they end up star­ing. Nor­mal When peo­ple re­ally want to talk to you, very few things will dis­tract them from you. They might be mo­men­tar­ily torn away, but 99 per­cent of their fo­cus is on you.

Not Un­com­fort­able or ner­vous peo­ple find dis­trac­tions to oc­cupy their mind or ease stress. They may pick lint off their clothes, play with their hair, fid­get, or check their phone. Nor­mal When peo­ple tell a story, their fea­tures should match the emo­tions they are de­scrib­ing, col­lec­tively giv­ing off the sig­nal of a gen­uine laugh, smile, or gasp.

Not Peo­ple who aren’t in­ter­ested in you may seem overly po­lite and fake: their smile won’t en­gage their eyes. Liars may be dra­matic by smil­ing or laugh­ing at odd times.

Eye Con­tact

Nor­mal

Not

At­ten­tion

Nor­mal

Not

Fa­cial Ex­pres­sions

Nor­mal

Not

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