What’s Normal, What’s Not
Interrogators know that most communication doesn’t come from our words but rather from the subtleties of our body language. Here’s how to listen with more than your ears...
Normal Happy, engaged people maintain good eye contact throughout the majority of the conversation, although the occasional break is perfectly normal.
Not A lack of eye contact implies everything else is more interesting than you. Deceptive people may avoid looking at you...or overdo it so much, they end up staring. Normal When people really want to talk to you, very few things will distract them from you. They might be momentarily torn away, but 99 percent of their focus is on you.
Not Uncomfortable or nervous people find distractions to occupy their mind or ease stress. They may pick lint off their clothes, play with their hair, fidget, or check their phone. Normal When people tell a story, their features should match the emotions they are describing, collectively giving off the signal of a genuine laugh, smile, or gasp.
Not People who aren’t interested in you may seem overly polite and fake: their smile won’t engage their eyes. Liars may be dramatic by smiling or laughing at odd times.