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LOVE AND LIFE ADVICE FROM OUR REAL-GIRL PANEL
I’m the only lesbian in my conservative office. I’m worried if people know I’m gay, I’ll be treated differently. Should I keep this to myself or be out and proud? “Given the current legal scenario in our country, and the fact that your office is a conservative one, we would suggest not mixing your work life with your personal life if you can help it, because this may lead to problems and leave you vulnerable. And it isn’t just because your sexuality is different from those around you, it’s a basic rule of professional life to keep work and personal matters separate.” —Sonali and Alka
Q I’ve never slept with a woman before. I’m worried my inexperience will be obvious. Should I be up front about being a newbie, or just
roll with it? A “Please be honest with her! It will make things much easier for the both of you when you know what to expect and what to do. Honesty is an important part of experiencing pleasure. And keep in mind that she, too, was once inexperienced. So don’t be shy about it!” —Noor Enayat
I came out to my mom a month ago, and she seemed okay with it. But every time we talk, she ignores the subject. How long should I wait before I say something?
Your mom is probably not ‘okay’ with it, and she is hoping that this is just a phase in your life. We don’t know your age or financial situation, but bring up the topic with your mom again, only if you are financially independent and take care of yourself—and if you feel you’re being treated unfairly.”
—Sree and Suchandra I’m dating a girl who says she’s bisexual, and I’m worried I am just a phase for her. I’m really into her, but this is always on my mind. Help! “If you really like her, you should give it a shot. All of us have dealt with those mixed feelings at some point or the other. Have a little compassion for her. And as the saying goes, if she is truly yours, she will stay yours.”