If you feel more like your BF’s parole officer than his partner, you may have assumed a disciplinarian role. “The ‘critical boss’ has high expectations of what a relationship should look like and what each person in a relationship should do,” says Pearce. The fix? Be realistic. Rather than challenging him over every petty thing, pick your battles wisely. “Identify what issues are really important to you and which ones you can let go of,” advises Pearce.