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Q.My sis­ter is in an un­healthy re­la­tion­ship that makes me worry about her. She keeps on go­ing back to him, say­ing she loves him. I can’t watch her make the same mis­takes, so what should I do?

A: The most im­por­tant thing is for you to re­main in your sis­ter’s life and not be pushed away, which will hap­pen if you stand be­tween her and her man. You don’t have to pre­tend to like him, but keep your per­sonal dis­like of him to yourself. If your sis­ter feels she must de­fend their re­la­tion­ship against you, later, when she re­alises the guy re­ally is a jerk, she won’t come to you for com­fort for fear of hear­ing ‘I told you so’. Be there for her, lis­ten, and con­tinue to help her de­velop self-worth un­til she can fi­nally see it for her­self.

Q: I’ve been mar­ried for just over a year to a lov­ing and car­ing man. Lately, I feel we’ve been drift­ing apart and I see him more as a best friend than a hus­band. I have a crush on a guy at work, and I’ve told my hus­band about this; I know it hurts him, but I must be hon­est. Should I pur­sue my crush or work on my mar­riage? A:

You say you must be hon­est with your hus­band, but have you tried be­ing hon­est with yourself? The guy at work is a smoke­screen. You’re lucky your hus­band feels like a best friend—it’s a good thing. Friends share hon­esty; they do not use it as a weapon against each other. If you can’t face the prob­lem to­gether, go for coun­selling. Get some magic back into your bed; try and learn to cher­ish your re­la­tion­ship with a lov­ing man. Only af­ter you have worked to­gether to re-heat the re­la­tion­ship on ev­ery level; only then, if the chill can­not be lifted, will it be time to part ways.

Q: I just can’t meet a man. I work with chil­dren and I vol­un­teer in a place where I don’t get to be with people my own age. I feel ready to look for some­one spe­cial, but don’t know how to do it. I need in­spi­ra­tion! A:

Make time for a new ac­tiv­ity you’ve had at the back of your mind as tempt­ing to try. To do some­thing that ex­cites you means you’ll find oth­ers who are ex­cited by it too, and what bet­ter way than a shared in­ter­est to be­gin in­ter­est in each other? Love also changes with time, so you could try In­ter­net dat­ing. If you do, please keep com­mon sense in con­trol of wish­ful think­ing. While chat­ting on­line with some­one, re­mind yourself not to com­mit heart to any man be­fore you’ve got to know him in per­son. And when meet­ing, do so in a pub­lic place, and tell a friend.

Q: I’ve been go­ing through trend re­ports and there’s big talk about tea length dresses. Do they look good on ev­ery­one? A:

Dresses with a tea length hem­line have se­ri­ous stay­ing power be­cause they bal­ance out the sex­i­ness of a mini and the com­fort of a maxi dress. And yes, they look good on ev­ery­one (they’ll lend a Mad Men- es­que charm and el­e­gance to your look). If you’re wor­ried about the mid-calf is­sue, choose a skirt that hits just be­low the knee in­stead. Re­mem­ber, nude heels al­ways work!

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