Good sex should make you feel like you’re on fire—but not literally. Caroline, 28, experiences burning pain during sex with most of her partners. “It feels like I’m tearing” when a guy enters her, she laments.
Anxiety, hormone imbalances, and infections like UTIs can all cause painful sex. Often, though, a lack of lubrication is to be blamed, because you’re either not aroused enough or you’re taking a prescription med that carries that side effect (some antidepressants and hormonal birthcontrol pills can do this). A waterbased lube may reduce friction and tearing and ease the ouch. If not, and especially if you have bleeding (which could signal a cervical polyp) or a discharge or sores (either of which might signal an infection), it’s time to get thee to a gynaecologist.