The Sex­i­est Thing You Can Do On a Date

An­thony Bour­dain, TV’s most ad­ven­tur­ous chef, ex­plains why it’s hot to lose your in­hi­bi­tions and go all in on a meal. Re­lax, ex­per­i­ment, get messy.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST - As told to Liz Plosser

“Y ou learn a lot about some­one when you share a meal to­gether. If your date makes the ex­pe­ri­ence uptight and re­stric­tive, well, the sex is go­ing to be hor­ri­ble too. Eat­ing is best when there is spon­tane­ity and va­ri­ety. I’m very Type-A, and many things in my life are about con­trol and dom­i­na­tion, but eat­ing should be a sub­mis­sive ex­pe­ri­ence, where you let down your guard and en­joy the ride.

I don’t have much pa­tience for peo­ple who are self-con­scious about the act of eat­ing, and it ir­ri­tates me when some­one de­nies them­selves the plea­sure of a hunk of steak or a pun­gent French cheese be­cause of some out­dated non­sense about what’s ap­pro­pri­ate or at­trac­tive. Stop wor­ry­ing about how your breath’s go­ing to smell, whether there’s beurre blanc on your face, or whether order­ing the braised pork belly will make you look fat. Eat­ing with aban­don couldn’t be more of a turn-on: it shows that you’re com­fort­able with your­self.

A per­fect date is with a per­son who eats with­out fear, prej­u­dice, or con­cerns about his or her ap­pear­ance. I re­mem­ber one of my first dates with my wife: she or­dered a six-pound lob­ster. I sat there, en­rap­tured, watch­ing her suck ev­ery bit of meat from it—she got a stand­ing ova­tion from the floor staff. She’s the kind of woman who will or­der filet mignon as an ap­pe­tizer fol­lowed by a T-bone steak. Her fear­less, open-minded ap­proach to food is com­pletely al­lur­ing.

It’s also wildly ex­cit­ing to be open to the un­fa­mil­iar, be­cause it just

Dessert to share? No will do

An­thony Bour­dain

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