...Is becoming increasingly common as we get older. Here's how to meet life's challenges together.
Marital strife common in old age
The TV is blaring. Telling your husband to turn the volume down and get his hearing checked just sets off the same old argument. He knows his hearing is bad, but he doesn’t want to get a hearing aid. And, he says, he’d just as soon not hear your nagging anyway. Keeping a marriage happy can be hard work – no matter how long you’ve been together. Add the health issues that often arise with age, and the challenge is even greater. But whatever the source of marital conflict, there are things you can do to put or keep your marriage on a positive track.
Some Of Life's Hurdle
Each stage of life can bring a unique set of stresses to a marriage. When you’re young, it can be blending two people into a couple, or establishing careers. Starting a family introduces a new set of
If adaptations are needed to improve your relationship, make them. Doing so may necessitate getting help along the way from family members and your family doctor.
considerations and challenges that change as children grow. With age, health concerns can be sources of friction. Problems with hearing can make conversations tangled and frustrating. Arthritis or stamina issues may keep one of you from walking as fast as the other, leading to irritation for both of you. Chronic pain, no matter what the cause, can influence how you interact and what you’re able to do together. For some, memory loss introduces a completely different dynamic to the relationship. And mental health issues, such as depression, can offer special challenges. With these stresses, the first step in restoring harmony is recognizing that a health issue is affecting how you and your spouse are getting along. Then, perhaps with the help of your doctor, you can do something about it. Sometimes, the solutions are straightforward. For instance, hearing impairment may be helped with hearing aids and simple measures, such as speaking face to face. Mobility issues may be solved by something as simple as using a cane, walker or scooter, or they may require more far-reaching solutions, such as moving from a multilevel home to a single-level home, or possibly a retirement community designed to accommodate changing mobility needs.
When Problem Run Deeper
Although health considerations with age can stress any marriage, the issues sometimes run deeper and are longstanding. If that’s the case, help may be necessary, and there are many resources available. Some people prefer to seek help from leaders at their place of worship. Others opt for marriage support groups. Ongoing marital difficulties may require marital therapy from a trained professional.
Adapting As A Team
You’re committed to the relationship. Clearly, you’ve made a choice to stick with your marriage. The obvious conclusion is that, for better in a deep and meaningful way. So if adaptations are needed to improve your relationship, make them. Doing so may necessitate getting help along the way from family members, friends, community resources and your family doctor. Why not do what it takes to make your marriage even better?