Let’s break the speed barriers
In this age of instant coffee, noodles and gratification, Indian youth are not willing to wait patiently for anything. They’re determined to get what their hearts are set on, even if it means lying to their parents or violating rules
Tn oday’s youth are self-centred, and will do almost anything as long as it benefits them. To top it all, impatience seems to have been woven into their DNA.
“I will beg, borrow or steal to buy something I really want,” the Hindustan Times-MaRs Youth Survey recorded as many as 81.5% respondents as saying. While 68.3% youngsters confessed to doing things their parents would not approve of, as many as 66% confessed to lying to their folks.
Harshita Srivastava, a 22-year-old content writer with InstaOffice, has an explanation for the occasional untruth. “One’s sense of right and wrong should come from within. You lie only when you know you have made a mistake, and don’t want to hurt your parents. What matters is if there is sincere effort on your part to not make the mistake again,” she says.
Nearly 80% of the respondents polled by the Hindustan TimesMaRs Youth Survey said they would do anything to win the approval of their friends. Srivastava, however, was surprised by such an attitude. “If you have to go out of your way to gain the approval of your friends by changing who you are, then it is high time you asked yourself if it’s worth being friends with such people. Seeking anyone’s approval shows lack of self-confidence,” she asserted.
Tanya Jain, a copywriter with Webenza, also could not fathom why people would act fake to fit in a particular group. “It is time we realised that such pretence won’t get us anywhere. We need to learn to accept and love ourselves for who we are,” she said.
Delhi-based psychoanalyst Nilofer Kaul put this trend in perspective. “The desire for peer approval seems to pervade our adolescence and youth. Acting cool and keeping up with the latest fashion improves acceptance in the community. Often, we find ourselves lacking in confidence and not measuring up to societal standards,” she said.
The survey also highlighted the widening generation gap between youngsters and older folk. As many as 75% of the respondents said they wouldn’t care what their parents thought as long as they did what they believed was right.
However, Shubham Saran – the 31-year-old founder of Zorted Solutions Private Limited – said while it was okay to be influenced by Western values, the youth should try to strike a balance between their views and that of their parents. “While the younger lot are adopting a more ‘modern’ outlook due to the advent of technology, they also refuse to consider the fact that their parents have more experience than them,” explained Saran. “I have travelled to more places at my age than they did in their youth, but they will always have an edge in understanding human emotions and situations.”
India’s younger generation is also anything but patient. Over 82% respondents of the survey said they wanted everything – and fast.
“This attitude resonates well with the fact that resources are much easier to access now. The advertisements being aired these days stress on this very fact. One thing that can be highlighted here is Royal Stag’s ‘It’s your life’ commercial, which goes to say that nothing is unachievable. If you have the will, you can etch out huge goals for yourself and push hard to achieve them,” said Saran.