‘When in love, just stop thinking what your friends would think’
I want to talk to girls in my college and make them laugh, but I can’t come up with a topic. I’ve just been saying ‘hello’ to them. Please help. VK
I’m going to ask you to write down a few topics — photosynthesis, cement mixers, and the shelf life of calcium carbonate. These are a few topics that you don’t discuss. No matter what. Let me also explain to you as kindly as I can, that if you just keep repeating ‘Hello’ to random girls, sooner or later, you’ll be arrested or put into a mental institution. Girls respond best to ‘normal’ behaviour, not forced stand-up comedy. I should know.
I have a crush on my batchmate but I can’t utter a single word in front of her. This is affecting my studies. Please help. SG
When you say you can’t say a single word, does it include nonsensical words, like ba-ba, goo-goo, demonetisation? If you can even make small sounds, that’s a start. Just say the word, ‘Hey’. Practise in the loo, in a garden, at a zoo, wherever you can. Then just engage her with the word ‘Hey’. If you get a ‘hey’ back from her, you’ve taken the first step, in a long, but worthwhile, process.
I’ve developed feelings for a friend who is not so attractive but really nice. I’m afraid that my friends will judge me. I’m getting mixed signals from her. What should I do? GB
I don’t understand the phrase “not so attractive, but really nice”. Do you find her attractive? Do you like, respect, and want her? Stop thinking about your friends’ opinions. Unless the friends are going to be part of all your future relationships. Instead, try to source out her feelings about you. If you spend all your free time together, the answer is pretty obvious.