Good looks are like gold

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Gauri Ch­habra

Have you ever won­dered why some peo­ple in this world seem to have it all? They get the best in pro­fes­sion, the best in re­la­tion­ships and the best in spir­i­tual life. Their life seems pic­ture per­fect.

They move with poise and per­fec­tion, glit­ter like gold and they are really gold. But what made them so?

A closer look at them would give you the an­swer. They have planned it well. So un­less you won the lucky sperm con­test and came into this world as a ridicu­lously en­dowed trust fund baby, you need to learn the sys­tem and plan your life well.

As clichéd as it may sound, life is a jour­ney; as with any other jour­ney, if you do not have a map, a plan and a time ta­ble, you will get lost. So, let us to­gether build a life man­ual for the rest of our lives and the first step of that is to look good.

You may be think­ing

Has the time come for board of direc­tors to rely on a can­di­date's fa­cial struc­ture when se­lect­ing a new ap­pli­cant? Per­haps yes. As we com­fort­ably nes­tle in the 21st cen­tury - one thing is be­com­ing strik­ingly clear - Looks does mat­ter and all that glit­ters is gold. Gone are those days when it was thought that face was just a façade, to­day face is a mir­ror re­flec­tion of what your per­for­mance is go­ing to be- and not with­out rea­son­be­cause re­search has proved that face that ex­udes confi- dence is the face that would look good.

You look good only when you feel good and the feel good fac­tor is ei­ther your con­fi­dence or your per­for­mance. Slowly it be­comes a vir­tu­ous cir­cle; feel good leads to look good and in turn look good makes you feel good. Look around your­self and men­tally draw a pic­ture of all suc­cess­ful per­sons in your life. You would find that there is a com­mon de­nom­i­na­tor that runs through each of them- good looks or the charisma that draws you to them. It has also been proved that pay hikes are also sub­tly re­lated to the way you present and carry your­self.

It would ap­pear that beauty is in the eye of the pay­mas­ter. The ques­tion is, how­ever, whether such dif­fer­ences in per­sonal at­tributes also make a dif­fer­ence in job per­for­mance. While th­ese traits do seem to en­hance one's self­im­age - and lead­er­ship success is of­ten con­nected to such psy­cho­log­i­cal char­ac­ter­is­tics, re­search has not yet iden­ti­fied any ob­jec­tive phys­i­cal traits of lead­ers that could be used to pre­dict their or­gan­i­sa­tional per­for­mance.

Well, now one as­pect of ap­pear­ance has been care­fully re­searched and proven to make a dif­fer­ence: fa­cial struc­ture.

The proof is in the prof­its

So, for those who have re­cently en­tered a new pro­fes­sion or are about to, do think of your growth tra­jec­tory, here are a few tips:

Dress your best

Ves­ture makes such a pow­er­ful im­pact in the work place that it is the first lin­ear step you should take while in a new pro­fes­sion or job. See to it that your wardrobe speaks vol­umes about your style state­ment. How­ever, that does not mean that your dresses should cost you a for­tune and only brands will speak for you.

True cre­ativ­ity lies in team­ing your clothes so that they com­ple­ment each other. One easy way to save money and yet look and feel good is to in­vest in ac­ces­sories that can com­ple­ment your clothes. And the best of clothes would make you look fool­ish if you have boot strapped them at the last moment. Do not make your clothes carry you, you need to carry them with­out draw­ing too much of at­ten­tion to them.

Dress to the oc­ca­sion

A ha­mar­tia or grave er­ror that the best dressed tend to com­mit is they would ei­ther un­der­dress or over­dress for the oc­ca­sion. Pic­ture your­self land­ing up at the of­fice pic­nic in your lat­est suit- neck tie. Although you are ves­ture at its best- you will look quixotic like Don Quixote in his shin­ing knightly ar­mor.

See to it that on such oc­ca­sions you are dressed in a sprightly ca­sual dress. But be­ware do not make your clothes scream for you they have to ac­com­pany you in a sub­tle and nat­u­ral man­ner.

Wear your own price tag

For those of you who are won­der­ing that the ex­pen­di­ture on your clothes is go­ing to dig a hole in your pock­ets be­ware-it is not the price tag. It is You.

You are your price tag. You carry your own value. The day you are dressed up im­mac­u­lately, pos­i­tive vi­bra­tions around you will make you feel good and you will re­al­ize that you are able to solve life's prob­lems in a jiffy. Once you have done that and en­hanced your per­for­mance you will re­al­ize that sud­denly you seem to have in­creased your mar­ket value. You are a brand in your­self. You are you, not the usual.

Oh! I am too young to do it, or I am too old to do it or

I am a woman, they won't lis­ten to me. You have grad­u­ated to a level where - you have pi­o­neered to do it and you oc­cupy a mind space in your em­ployer's mind and next time he thinks of whom to pro­mote, he will think of you be­cause you started with looks and to­day you oc­cupy a psy­cho­log­i­cal sense of power that ex­udes through you. You have be­come the face of the or­gan­i­sa­tion- A face to love.

Yeah But…All that glit­ters is not gold: If you are think­ing on the above lines, let me cor­rect you, all that glit­ters is gold. In the cor­po­rate world, you are in­deed judged by your poise and glit­ter.

For those of you who have gone on a "yeah but jour­ney of yeah I agree but it is too late now", let me tell you it is never too late to plan your life. Al­most ev­ery one of us can re­claim his life… Ria- the girl next door al­ready did… how about you? (The writer is a Pun­jab- based ed­u­ca­tion coun­sel­lor with 12 years of ex­pe­ri­ence. She can be con­tacted at gau­ri_­nag­pal@ya­hoo.com )

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