IMPROVE YOUR THOUGHT PATTERNS
ers. It has become a habit with today’s employees to give advice to others, while not applying the same to their own selves.
Success requires competence
Competition, jealousy, and greed simply give rise to unhealthy ways of harming others. Success does come that easily. It requires competence that comes with self confidence and focused attention, which operate as we fully attend to the job in hand. Unless and until we remove our inhibitions we are not going to succeed that easily.
No one of us is born inferior, yet so many of us nurture inferiority complexes. Such complexes are certainly not real. Neither are they based on real experiences. They actually originate out of our own nega- tive thinking. They originate from our own baseless conclusions that we have this or that weakness.
Had psychologist Adler developed the inferiority complex that he would always be a failure in mathematics, he would have never risen in life. Had Lincoln got a sinking heart cogitating over the wrong taunt of that jealous mother, he would have gone to the winds long ago. And we are still worrying that we are inferior in this or that.
Learn to believe in your own self
To succeed in any line, learn to believe in your own self. It is only when we believe in what others say or tell that we are losers. How can you expect others to praise you and consider themselves as weak? Human pride does not allow that to happen, howsoever close the other one may be to you.
It is your own duty to praise your own talents and qualities. As you praise yourself thus, your latent potential comes to the fore. That is the best way to extinguish your weaknesses and elevate your glaring good points.
Many employees fear to handle even a minor situation alone. Such employees always wish to have someone at their side. This is a sheer phobia. Its roots go back to childhood experiences. As a child you were not allowed to do a thing of your own. And that had given birth to a fear in you that it is difficult for you to handle a situation of your own.
Take opportunities head on, feel elated
But there is nothing to fear now. It should rather be taken as an opportunity that you are allowed to do a thing independently now. It is just a matter of attitude that puts a hurdle in what you do. Now why not change your attitude? Rather feel elated to handle the situation with your own independent methodology. Just one or two times practice will encourage you how efficient and successful you alone can be.
Now shun all worries. When others judge you negatively, they are mostly wrong. You are inferior to none. You have your own peculiar and powerful potential. Realise it. Explore it. Utilise it. And be of productive and constructive use to others.
With efforts you can add value to your worth, doing a good work. And you will yourself see how people shower much praise upon you. See yourself as worthy. Feel yourself worthy. And you will become worthy. When you change your thought patterns in a positive way, only sky is the limit to what you can achieve. The writer is a Kangra based psychologist, a noted career expert, and a popular motivational speaker having more than 40 years’ experience. He can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org
Prof DC Sharma amous psychologist Dr Alfred Adler faced a bad beginning – his primary schoolteacher had told him that he was poor in mathematics. The teacher informed Adler’s parents not to expect much from the child. His poor grades also proved this fact. But Adler accepted such versions about him passively. opens. Equally true is this that when one door opens another one closes. But often we look regretfully at the closed door, and we do not clearly see the one which is open to us.
That’s how we ourselves, and shape our thought patterns, which ultimately make and shape our workplace situations and life. Ignoring to look into the door that opens is like plucking the blossoms. How can we expect to taste the fruit when we opt to pluck the blossoms too!