Help! Laziness pulls me down
I am 16. Everyone says I am very intelligent and knowledgeable etc. My family and teachers say that I am capable of achieving a lot in life. But I am extremely lazy by nature. Could you please help me get organised and manage my time better?
—Sandeep You are actually going through the “wear and tear” experience. Laziness can be a result of some stress or tension that might be troubling you.
Also, you need to acknowledge certain facts. As a positive influence, any stress can help motivate us to act. As a negative influence, it can result in feelings leading to health problems such as lack of sleep, mood swings, indigestion, abdominal cramps, neck ache, and backache.
You need to manage your time efficiently. Plan at least seveneight hours of restful sleep to enhance your concentration level. Incorporate enough physical activity in your daily routine. Take a healthy diet — include green leafy vegetables, salads and pulses. Avoid oily stuff and junk food.
You are a bright student and I am sure you will excel in whatever field you work in. Best wishes. My younger sister, 14, has developed the habit of lying. She is becoming aggressive and has even gone to the extent of being violent with us. My parents have tried to discipline her by scolding her but there is no change in her. What should I do?
—A confused sibling Your concern seems quite realistic. Entering adolescence can be quite overwhelming and this might be her way of dealing with it. She might be lying because she feels a need to lie. This could be because she is not able to trust people around her or because she fears being disapproved by her family. She might also be emulating the act of disrespecting her elders from other members of the family. At this age, there is a certain resentment to adult authority. This is natural, but it has to be contained.
Ask your sister to confide in you. Show her affection and understanding. Try to be her friend rather than an older brother. Give her a set of rules that are reasonable. Treat her like a grown-up. Talk to her about how you felt the same way when you were young but eventually realised your mistakes. Consistently disciplining her harshly is counterproductive. Besides this, seeking help of a psychologist is better to plan an effective therapy. Theauthorisaseniorconsultant psychiatristwithMoolchandMedcity andVimhans,NewDelhi.Sendhim email@example.com,marked‘DrNagpal’