‘Help, I am very sensitive’ lifecoach
G PA L I am among the top five students of my class (science). I react easily. I have crying spells when something makes me feel insecure. How do I build my emotional strength?
—A sensitive student It is appreciable that you are doing well at school. Experiencing a full range of emotions is a normal part of life. Everyone experiences situations when work is doing badly, when a hobby ceases to be fulfilling, or when others don’t seem to understand you. If all our self-esteem, therefore, is bound up in just one aspect of our lives, there will be times when we would become vulnerable.
It is important to understand our weakness as well if we want to evolve into better human beings and you have gracefully done that. Emotions are a sort of a cogwheel around which our lives revolve. Our feelings influence our thinking and our thinking impacts our behaviour. Hence, it is important to manage our emotional reactions in day-to-day life. It will be possible only when we develop the ability to perceive emotions and their triggers accurately.
We need to think about how we interpret a situation, what meanings we give to others’ intentions, whether there is a necessity to think and believe in absolutes and start demeaning ourselves. All of us feel hurt at times but we should try to channelise our negative emotions through constructive ways such as developing a hobby, talking it out, learning to relax and changing the cycle of our thoughts – which usually make us feel all the more negative. If you still feel incapable of doing so, you could seek professional help.