COM­MON REA­SONS FOR RE­JEC­TION

Hindustan Times (Gurugram) - City - - LIFESTYLE -

Th­ese days, looks play an im­por­tant role in re­la­tion­ships, and the same ap­plies when it comes to ar­ranged mar­riages, too. Dharmadhikari says, “Nowa­days, peo­ple fo­cus a lot on ex­ter­nal ap­pear­ances. So, in­stead of know­ing a per­son, peo­ple judge a po­ten­tial spouse on his or her looks.” He adds, “Also, peo­ple th­ese days want a spouse, whose life­style matches their own. Though one can adapt to a life­style change post mar­riage, peo­ple don’t re­alise this and tend to make wrong de­ci­sions. Judg­ing a po­ten­tial spouse based on the fam­ily situation and not on the in­di­vid­ual is also com­mon.”

Re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Vishnu Modi talks about an IT pro­fes­sional, Anand Kubra, who started look­ing for an ar­ranged match af­ter two breakups. But, once he started meet­ing po­ten­tial spouses, he would mostly have is­sues with their fam­i­lies. For ex­am­ple, once he didn’t like the way some­one’s fa­ther spoke to him and de­cided not to meet the woman again. But even­tu­ally, af­ter his op­tions started get­ting slim­mer he re­alised this be­hav­iour wasn’t help­ing his cause and changed his mind­set.”

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