‘77% par­ents spank kids at home’

Hindustan Times (Jalandhar) - - NATION - Shreya Bhandary shreya.bhandary@hin­dus­tan­times.com

MUM­BAI: At a time when the Right to Ed­u­ca­tion (RTE) Act pro­hibits any form of cor­po­ral pun­ish­ment against chil­dren in schools, a sur­vey has revealed that kids still face spank­ing at home.

A re­cently con­ducted na­tion­wide sur­vey has high­lighted that 77.5% par­ents resort to hit­ting kids, with 28% ad­mit­ting that they do this on a reg­u­lar ba­sis.

Of over 1,790 par­ents, who were in­ter­viewed, al­most 80% of mothers revealed how they are the ones play­ing the bad cop at homes com­pared to fa­thers, when it comes to en­cour­ag­ing dis­ci­pline among chil­dren.

“This clearly shows the lack of shared re­spon­si­bil­ity when it comes to dis­ci­plin­ing chil­dren, as many mothers are stay-at-home moms whereas fa­thers get to play the good cop. Not only have mothers said they spank their chil­dren, but it’s sur­pris­ing how they do so de­spite know­ing the ef­fects spank­ing can have on chil­dren,” said Ru­chita Dar Shah, founder, First Moms Club (In­dia), an on­line com­mu­nity that con­nects over one lakh par­ents across the globe. The sur­vey was con­ducted by the First Moms Club along with Early Child­hood As­so­ci­a­tion (ECA) and Born Smart.

Al­most 72% of sur­veyed par­ents revealed that they felt guilty al­most im­me­di­ately after rais­ing their hands on their kids, and an­other 19% par­ents also be­lieved this to be the only way to dis­ci­pline their chil­dren.

“76.4% par­ents said they chose to raise their hands as the child ‘ir­ri­tates’ them, and they even­tu­ally lose their cool… Most par­ents agreed that they ended up rais­ing their hands on chil­dren ei­ther dur­ing meals or dur­ing bed­time,” high­lights the sur­vey.

Al­most 69% par­ents also knew about the ef­fects spank­ing has on chil­dren, but found them­selves los­ing their tem­per of­ten.

While the sur­vey high­lights the prob­lem at hand, par­ents were also asked about their rea­sons be­hind their choice of en­sur­ing dis­ci­pline among chil­dren.

Shah high­lighted how the sur­vey sam­ple size in­cludes a ma­jor­ity of qual­i­fied and work­ing pro­fes­sion­als, all of whom are aware of the ef­fect of spank­ing or pinch­ing chil­dren.

“But the so­ci­ety al­ways puts ex­tra pres­sure on mothers to be the best at ev­ery step, and some­how, this does af­fect them. The way out would be equal shar­ing of re­spon­si­bil­i­ties be­tween both par­ents, es­pe­cially when it comes to dis­ci­plin­ing chil­dren.”

Swati Popat Vats, pres­i­dent of ECA, In­dia said, “The pur­pose of the sur­vey was not to em­bar­rass par­ents, but to bring this topic out in the open and raise more aware­ness about the same. We want to en­cour­age trust based par­ent­ing over force based par­ent­ing.”

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