Ado­les­cents say no to parental in­ter­fer­ence

Kids want free­dom to dress as they please, don’t want their on­line ac­tiv­i­ties mon­i­tored

Hindustan Times (Lucknow) - - Lucknow - HT Cor­re­spon­dent lko­re­porters­desk@hin­dus­tan­times.com

LUC­KNOW: Today’s chil­dren, es­pe­cially teenagers, say they want “azadi” (in­de­pen­dence) from “un­nec­es­sary in­ter­fer­ence” of par­ents. Speak­ing to Hin­dus­tan Times on the oc­ca­sion of Chil­dren’s Day, sev­eral ado­les­cent boys and girls said they wanted to break free of shack­les and were unhappy with the re­stric­tions im­posed on them.

How­ever, younger kids said they pre­ferred be­ing around their par­ents.

The ado­les­cents said they were born in the era of in­ter­net and so­cial me­dia -- far dif­fer­ent from the sce­nario in the late 70s or 80s, when their par­ents grew up. “At that time, there were black and white tele­vi­sion sets and Do­or­dar­shan was the only chan­nel to watch,” said a child.

As­sert­ing her in­de­pen­dence, Class 9 stu­dent Sak­shi Sri­vas­tava said, “They (par­ents) should not stop me from go­ing out alone. I ex­pect them to give me a free hand to choose what I wear. If I’m com­fort­able wear­ing short dresses, I see no rea­son for them to tell me not to wear it.”

The chil­dren said they were tired of moral polic­ing and con­stant mon­i­tor­ing by par­ents. “My mom and dad have de­vel­oped a bad habit of check­ing my phone calls and con­tact de­tails. This is not done. Par­ents must play the role of fa­cil­i­ta­tors, not preach­ers,” said Pran­jal Singh, a Class 8 stu­dent.

The chil­dren said that today they were un­der con­stant CCTV cam­era vig­i­lance at school. “In such a sit­u­a­tion, if par­ents also place se­vere re­stric­tions on us, life will be­come too mo­not­o­nous,” said an­other teenager.

How­ever, views of younger chil­dren were quite dif­fer­ent.

“I want my par­ents to spend more qual­ity time with me. They should help me with my school projects and other as­sign­ments. While I do not want them to hold my hand al­ways, they should be around,” said Sak­sham Sri­vas­tava, a Class 3 stu­dent.

Eleven-year-old Pran­jal Mishra of Class 5 said he wanted his par­ents to give him a lot of time, love and af­fec­tion. “I ex­pect ev­ery­thing from them. They should be around when I need them. I feel our par­ents can be our best friends as they have known us since our birth,” he said.

Aditi Agar­wal of Class 9 said she considered her­self lucky and blessed to have par­ents who al­lowed her to do what­ever she wanted.

“I am very for­tu­nate. My par­ents never in­ter­fere in my life, nor do they ever ques­tion my de­ci­sions,” she said.

SUBHANKAR CHAKRABORTY AND MUQEED/HT PHOTOS

(L­R) Kids en­joy­ing at a fete or­gan­ised by St Fran­cis’ Col­lege on Chil­dren’s Day (Tues­day); tiny tots per­form­ing at an event or­gan­ised by Lit­tle Mil­len­nium pre­school at Sangeet Natak Akademi and teach­ers and stu­dents at a special as­sem­bly or­gan­ised by GD Goenka Pub­lic School in Luc­know.

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