‘TOUGH TO GET A GIRL WHO’LL LOVE YOU’
I am 29, and I’m seeing a single mother of a teenage girl, who 13 years older than me. We were colleagues. Now, after being together for three years, she insists we should continue only as friends. She wants me to get married and settle down with someone else. She thinks our relationship doesn’t have a name and that I am wasting my time. What should I do?
DD Love and Math have always been a problem. Numbers just don’t seem to mix with romance. My good friend Shabbir left his wife as her figure after nine years of marriage had blossomed into a 34/44/46, which made him look like his wife’s teenage son. So in your case, Double D, she is 42 you are 29. This means when you’ll be 104, and she’ll be 117. What I’m trying to say is all this number talk is pointless. It’s just an excuse. She wants to either get rid of you, or wants you very badly, but needs you to reas
sure her about
your deep love for her. I’ve been seeing a nice girl for the past one and a half years. I love her, as do my friends. But she’s too dependent on me, which kind of bugs me. And she’s a little too cheesy. It makes me rethink the whole relationship sometimes. Should I continue dating her?
PG PG, in today’s day and age, it’s not easy to get a girl to love you. Believe me, I’ve tried. So, if her only real fault is dependence, there are worse ones like a woman who’ll grow a beard just to spite her spouse, who can’t seem to grow his. Ming Chan, the Han Dynasty General, in his book Don’t Eat Carbs Between Wars, says that in every relationship, one is more dependant on another. He was dependent on Brigadier Ban-Teng himself, who arrived late with reinforcements in the Battle of Yang-Tse, leading to Ming Chan’s untimely demise. Please don’t use this as an excuse. As for cheesy, have you seen our country, man? We invented cheesy! I was in relationship for five years. But suddenly, things started changing. She began planning further studies in another state, and broke up with me. She said her parents will not accept me. I love her and she loves me too. But, I don’t know why she is behaving like this. AM AM, if you refer to my poem, Communicating with Pigeons on a Tuesday afternoon, you will find your answer. You have a fve-year-long relationship. She is suddenly getting cold feet. If you both really love each other, you and I have the same problem I had with my pet pigeon, “Mr Bakshi”, in the above mentioned Poem. I told ‘Mr Bakshi’ to look out, as a hawk was stalking him. Mr Bakshi heard a ‘Stork was mocking him’. Long story short, the hawk ate Mr Bakshi, and I had to continue the last two stanzas of the poem with another pigeon, ‘Mr Srivastava’. Basically, if you love each other, communicate. She needs to be clearer on what her issues are. Don’t become Mr Bakshi. Talk. Go to and fro. Pro and cons. Get both sides out there. I’ve been dating a guy for the past four years. Lately, I have begun to like someone else. I seem to have fallen in love with him. He is much better than my boyfriend in terms of intelligence, but is not as good looking as him. He’s a little self-centred too. I don’t want to take the first step and propose to him and I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend either. I am really very, very confused. What should I do?
CONFUSED SOUL Confused Soul, here’s some news! You are already dating the new guy. You’ve gone for three movies with him, remember? My wife and I are married for 14 years now. And we’ve only gone to two movies. For choosing one over the other, you could weigh them in gold, and date the heavier one. You could ask them to write a composition on you, and decide on that performance. I personally would go for the one who can cook or clean, but you are not me. I suggest that you go out of town for a day, and just try to explore which one you miss more. That’s the one for you. And the other, you can keep for out of town. Parents don’t come into the picture, till well after you’ve made your choice.