‘Honey, I love this girl’
I’m a 41-year-old divorced businessman who is looking for a live-in relationship in Chandigarh. Newspapers, like The Tribune, don’t accept such ads. I have a female child who is 12-years-old. Matrimonial ads are a big gamble. Will a live-in work in my case? How can I find someone compatible? How can I find someone for a live-in relationship?
Yes AS, your approach is fantastic. Fantastic if you’re buying a fridge. Sadly while searching for a mate, it’s not always so clinical. However, good news is in store for you. First, let me welcome you to the 21st century. Please press the green button and proceed. Social networking is your answer. There are many websites (last count 11,433) that allow you to hook up with likeminded prospective parties. Your idea of a ‘live in’ maybe appreciated by the future partner. A word of caution before agreeing to let her live in. Now don’t waste time, go online.
I’m in love with a girl who already has a boyfriend. She says she and her boyfriend have some sort of a contract and that they will break-up next year. I have met her just two or three times. We chat a lot on phone and Whatsapp. We’re good friends now. How do I express my feelings to her? Should I wait till her breakup? When would be the right time to tell her that I love her?
Honey, I love this girl that you may love. She may be the most efficient lover ever. I mean Sang Lin Win of the Tang Dynasty broke up with a girl every week and moved onto a fresh one for seven consecutive years. Of course, he used a very persuasive argument: “Let’s break up or your head and your entire family will disappear from the earth”.
After lots of thinking, most girls agreed to move on. I say let her honour her contract. But please ask her to share details such as when, what month, week daytime etc the break up is expected. Yes, don’t be a moron and tell her you like her, as she doesn’t seem too keen on her first choice.
I’m in love with my school teacher. I even confessed my love to him, but he thinks I’m too young for him and that I don’t know what love is. I’m 18 and he is 25. He is married and even has a daughter. But, he and his wife stay separately. What should I do?
Leeyera, crushes with and on school teachers is as old as the flawed concept of education itself... I, too, had a crush on my headmistress, but since I was four years at the time, the police were never called in. Later, when I taught functional electronics at the University of Worrick, I discovered many students had crushes on me. But since none were female (although one was a dancer), I never reciprocated the feeling. The student-teacher dynamics lends itself to romance. So, my advice is that if you had to fall for a teacher, avoid the married ones with daughters. He seems to have dissuaded you, so do what you came to school for — listen to your teacher.
I’ve been a close friend with a girl for a year-and-a-half now. We share everything with each other. But, of late, she hasn’t been talking to me much because her father and brother don’t like me. I feel sad about this. She has even blocked me on Whatsapp and other social networking sites. What should I do?
DT, in Stella Smith’s book ‘DogTraining’, she points out that it’s difficult to house train a puppy who is distracted. The same is true of your situation. She is distracted and influenced by her family. Sadly, that influence is much stronger than her feelings for you. In toilet training terms, she will pee on the bed if you let her lay on it. Write to her a firmly-worded letter about how disappointed you are and then leave her alone. If she responds, well and good. If not, go by what the bard says — ‘let sleeping dogs lie’, especially if they are not toilet trained.