I have been in a long-distance relationship with my former classmate. He is close to his female best friend. And her posts are all over his Instagram and Facebook accounts. I get hurt when I see their cute comments. I get jealous, and end up getting angry with my guy. He says they are just friends. I can’t even tell him to cut ties with her as it won’t be right. What should I do? Trisha
Trisha, jealousy is very normal, and takes all shapes and forms. As a young boy I was jealous of a pink handbag, that my mother used to own. Till today, I’m not comfortable around handbags, although I’m generally okay with check-in baggage and haversacks. Having said that, my first teacher William Shakespeare said Cowards die many time before their death ... so why are you pre-empting bad news? You need to be flexible not rigid. But maybe a little social contact from your side will keep him in check, if you know what I mean.
Everybody, including my parents, likes my boyfriend. But, I have betrayed him by being in touch with my ex from the time we started dating. My ex thinks that I have broken up with my boyfriend. He treats me like his girlfriend. I have feelings for him, and want to date him again. What should I do? PK
PK how does it matter if your parents like your boyfriend? From now on when you buy underwear do you first get your parents opinion on which one to buy? The only questions you need to ask yourself is, ‘Who do you like?’ If it was a choice between cars I would definitely helped you choose one or the other. But boyfriends are not that important. So you need to ask yourself which one you would save if both were hanging from a cliff ! And I know your tempted to answer, ‘The Cliff ’ but please choose one boy.
I am in love with a girl. I even proposed to her. She turned down my proposal because she is dating someone else. Her boyfriend has even cheated on her and now, she can’t trust anyone. What should I do? VG
VG romance isn’t like politics. You can’t just move to another party every 30 seconds. If she is dating someone you can’t expect her to fall for you every time the 9 o’clock news is on. Now in olden-day Honduras if any man was found to be cheating on his wife, he was asked to fill a barrel with hot oil. Then the person who squealed on him was pushed into the barrel. So popular was this custom that soon the oil business in Honduras was booming. She has turned you down once, she needs to sort out her own life. If she doesn’t mind having you around feel free to play the ‘waiting’ game, but for now don’t rush her.
It’s been four years since I like a very close family friend. And, because he has a girlfriend, I don’t think I will ever be able to date him. I have genuine feelings for him. What should I do? PS
PS, you need to draw inspiration from Steve McQueen’s character in the film, The Great Escape. Of course you are not trying to escape. You are in fact shamelessly trying to get caught. Anyway, Steve McQueens’s character had a plan to escape from a prison of war camps, in World War 11. You need a plan too. You need to start ‘pataoing” the guy in a way he doesn’t initially know he’s being “pataoed”. Until the line between friendship and love gets blurred. Form a plan and then stick to it.