Why do gay men find monogamous relationships tough?
While infidelity is rampant in heterosexual relationships as well, it’s higher in homosexual couples, say experts. At the time of easy hookups through dating apps such as Grindr and Tinder and the availability of gay bath houses in the city, promiscuity is on the rise.
“I really love my boyfriend but when I look at other good looking men, my urge to get involved in a romantic liaison or one night stand increases,” says Karthik Mehra, 26, a marketing professional based in Gurugram. With same-sex relationships still illegal in India, “a majority of couples are commitmentphobic, and their pursuit to find someone more appealing continues,” adds businessman Raghav Hasija, 34.
If not cheating, many resort to open relationships — that allow liaisons outside of the relationship. “I’m in an open relationship with my partner for 10 years now. But that doesn’t lessen my love for him. If I sleep with someone else, I’ll consider it as hookup and there wouldn’t be any emotional connect,” says model Paras Kukreja.
Psychologist Pulkit Sharma agrees that the reason behind gays’ promiscuity is their non-acceptance in the society. “Many gay men come to me and share that they want to be monogamous. They want to marry, but they have not been able to do so because the law and society doesn’t approve of that,” says Sharma.