5 ways to maintain your individuality in a relationship
When a relationship starts, it’s no doubt one of the most beautiful phases in one’s life, but as you grow into it, things soon change from ‘me’ to ‘we’. And, by the time you realise it, you start missing who you were. “The feeling of merging of the two often makes one feel depleted,” says relationship counsellor Shivani Sadhoo. Agrees Jai Madan, “Partners should respect and accept each other’s differences and maintain their individuality.”
Here’s some expert advice: Love him or her, but love yourself more: “The most crucial thing to do is to work on your selfesteem and realise the value of your life,” advises Sadhoo. Have a creative streak: Follow your passion. Delve deeper into a hobby you have and make yourself happy. Create a balance in the relationship: Practise a little ‘me time’ by going for a walk or having a cup of tea alone and gathering your thoughts. Go out with friends or colleagues as well, but also make sure to spend time with your partner, discussing your day, or go on date nights. Give space: “There should be a certain sense of privacy that is maintained between each other. Nothing should be too open or too disguised,” adds Madan. Express your views: You don’t always have to give into everything that your partner wants. Keep an open mind, balancing each other’s needs.