5 ways to main­tain your in­di­vid­u­al­ity in a relationship

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Time Out - Pr­erna Gauba

When a relationship starts, it’s no doubt one of the most beau­ti­ful phases in one’s life, but as you grow into it, things soon change from ‘me’ to ‘we’. And, by the time you re­alise it, you start miss­ing who you were. “The feel­ing of merg­ing of the two of­ten makes one feel de­pleted,” says relationship coun­sel­lor Shivani Sad­hoo. Agrees Jai Madan, “Part­ners should re­spect and ac­cept each other’s dif­fer­ences and main­tain their in­di­vid­u­al­ity.”

Here’s some ex­pert ad­vice: Love him or her, but love your­self more: “The most cru­cial thing to do is to work on your self­es­teem and re­alise the value of your life,” ad­vises Sad­hoo. Have a cre­ative streak: Fol­low your pas­sion. Delve deeper into a hobby you have and make your­self happy. Cre­ate a bal­ance in the relationship: Prac­tise a lit­tle ‘me time’ by go­ing for a walk or hav­ing a cup of tea alone and gath­er­ing your thoughts. Go out with friends or col­leagues as well, but also make sure to spend time with your part­ner, dis­cussing your day, or go on date nights. Give space: “There should be a cer­tain sense of pri­vacy that is main­tained be­tween each other. Noth­ing should be too open or too dis­guised,” adds Madan. Ex­press your views: You don’t always have to give into ev­ery­thing that your part­ner wants. Keep an open mind, bal­anc­ing each other’s needs.

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