Love thy neigh­bour?

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Lifestyle - Collin Ro­drigues

Ex­tra­mar­i­tal af­fairs are a com­mon oc­cur­rence th­ese days. There are mul­ti­ple dat­ing web­sites ded­i­cated specif­i­cally to peo­ple who are mar­ried. One such site has come out with a sur­vey, which con­cluded that when it comes to ex­tra­mar­i­tal re­la­tion­ships, peo­ple are more prone to date their neigh­bours. The sur­vey spoke to 8,000 peo­ple and found out that 62% women fan­ta­sised about cheat­ing with one of their neigh­bours. While 71% men claimed that they had dreamt about a sen­sual mo­ment with their neigh­bour. In­ter­est­ingly, 31% fe­males con­fessed to ac­tu­ally hav­ing an af­fair with their neigh­bour.

WOR­RY­ING SIGN

So, does this mean you should be wor­ried about your neigh­bour? Men­tal health coun­sel­lor, Kavita Mungi says that one re­ally can’t do much to pre­vent in­fi­delity. She says, “If the neigh­bour is at­trac­tive and you feel threat­ened, it’s best to keep dis­tance. If you fear the like­li­hood of an af­fair then it’s best to change res­i­dences, though dis­tance might just make the heart fonder. It is bet­ter to in­tro­spect one’s own re­la­tion­ship is­sues in­stead.” She adds, “If do­mes­tic­ity and bore­dom has killed the spark in your re­la­tion­ship, then do some­thing to light the flame again.” Mungi says doubts and con­jec­ture can be ex­tremely detri­men­tal to a suc­cess­ful mar­riage or part­ner­ship. She says, “So, un­less there is a solid ev­i­dence, one should not let doubts rule your mind.”

A DIF­FER­ENT BOND

But, it’s not only ex­tra­mar­i­tal af­fairs that peo­ple are prone to hav­ing with neigh­bours. Re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Rid­dhish Maru says it’s all about close­ness. He says, “The mo­ment you step out of the house, your neigh­bours are the first point of con­tact. You meet them al­most ev­ery day, know them well and are close to them. So, at times, all th­ese fac­tors help fa­cil­i­tate af­fairs.”

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