HOW EX­CES­SIVE EM­PA­THY CAN BE HARM­FUL

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1) Wrong choice: Ex­perts sug­gest that at times, we end up em­pathis­ing with the wrong per­son. It’s eas­ier to em­pathise with peo­ple we know rather than some­one we don’t. One needs to em­pathise with the per­son de­serv­ing it. If you emo­tion­ally in­vest your­self in the wrong per­son, you can get ma­nip­u­lated and de­ceived. 2) Ob­jec­tiv­ity: If there’s a choice in­volv­ing more than one per­son, you have to be ob­jec­tive. Ex­ces­sive em­pa­thy can cloud your judge­ment. Your emo­tions can get in the way of mak­ing log­i­cal and fairer de­ci­sions.

3) Un­healthy re­la­tion­ships: Ex­ces­sive em­pa­thy in re­la­tion­ships can lead to overde­pen­dence. Peo­ple tend to ex­ces­sively em­pathise with their part­ner.

4) Ma­nip­u­la­tion: At times, too much em­pa­thy also means that you tend to get used by peo­ple who do so to feel good. This may make you feel emo­tion­ally drained. It also leaves you feel­ing alone as peo­ple only talk to you about them­selves and you don’t get a chance to open up.

5) En­ablers: Peo­ple who have usu­ally de­vel­oped bad habits or have self de­struc­tive be­hav­iour, tend to at­tract peo­ple with ex­ces­sive em­pa­thy. Peo­ple with ex­ces­sive em­pa­thy en­cour­age such be­hav­iour by with re­lat­ing and con­sol­ing them.

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