HOW EXCESSIVE EMPATHY CAN BE HARMFUL
1) Wrong choice: Experts suggest that at times, we end up empathising with the wrong person. It’s easier to empathise with people we know rather than someone we don’t. One needs to empathise with the person deserving it. If you emotionally invest yourself in the wrong person, you can get manipulated and deceived. 2) Objectivity: If there’s a choice involving more than one person, you have to be objective. Excessive empathy can cloud your judgement. Your emotions can get in the way of making logical and fairer decisions.
3) Unhealthy relationships: Excessive empathy in relationships can lead to overdependence. People tend to excessively empathise with their partner.
4) Manipulation: At times, too much empathy also means that you tend to get used by people who do so to feel good. This may make you feel emotionally drained. It also leaves you feeling alone as people only talk to you about themselves and you don’t get a chance to open up.
5) Enablers: People who have usually developed bad habits or have self destructive behaviour, tend to attract people with excessive empathy. People with excessive empathy encourage such behaviour by with relating and consoling them.