Don’t be too picky when it comes to choos­ing part­ners

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Did you re­ject some­one be­cause you didn’t like their hair? Or did you not like their cloth­ing style? Well, you might have a tough time find­ing your ideal match then. Find­ing that per­fect part­ner can get even more com­pli­cated, if you’re picky about who you want to be with.

Dat­ing ex­pert James Preece shared, “Dat­ing is a two way thing. It’s OK to rule peo­ple out but why would Mr. or Miss Right be in­ter­ested in dat­ing you in the first place? You can’t ex­pect to date a su­per­model if you aren’t even tak­ing care of your­self prop­erly. Picky peo­ple will have a check­list of all the things they want in a part­ner and if they don’t tick ev­ery box they give up,” ex­plained Preece.

Un­sur­pris­ingly, if you want to build a suc­cess­ful re­la­tion­ship, you have to start look­ing for more than pretty faces.

“The big­gest is­sue is that what peo­ple say they want and what they re­ally need rarely align. A happy re­la­tion­ship is one that’s built on shared val­ues and in­ter­ests as much as phys­i­cal at­trac­tion. Chem­istry can grow if you are will­ing to give it a chance,” shared Preece.

Preece also men­tions about the stakes of peo­ple’s ex­pec­ta­tions be­ing ex­ac­er­bated by celebri­ties, so­cial me­dia and an end­less slew of rom coms, which he calls the ‘Dis­ney Syn­drome’. So next time you go on a date, give that per­son a good chance.

PHOTO: SHUTTERSTOCK

Com­mit­ted in­di­vid­u­als see other po­ten­tial part­ners as less at­trac­tive than other peo­ple see them, says a study

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