The pleasure hunt for couples
As sexual-enhancement products make their way into the lives of an increasing number of Indians, we find out if we are finally ready to experiment
In Western countries, the use of sexual-enhancement products or sex toys, as they are called, is very common. You get these products offline and in online stores as well. These days, in India too, several websites have started selling these products. One such portal thatspersonal.com has come out with a national survey about the use of sexual-enhancement products in the country. According to their data, among cities in India, Mumbai has the highest sale of pleasure products; Delhi comes a close second, with 38% of the buyers being women. In Baroda, Pune and Thiruvananthapuram, the number of female buyers are more than men.
So, does this mean Indians are finally ready to experiment with sexual-enhancement products or it’s only the curiosity level that is making people buy these products? Relationship expert Kinjal Pandya says that the rise in the use of these products is because of our busy lives. She says, “Sex has a stressrelieving effect. So, after sex, as hormones are released, people generally feel stress-free and relaxed. And, because the stress levels have increased drastically in the last few years, people are craving for more and more sex. Now, not everybody will have a partner with whom they can indulge in sex whenever and wherever they want to. So, having a sexualenhancement
product at their disposal, which they can use whenever they want to, helps. Though it may be mechanical, at least you know you are not cheating on your partner.”
The use of these products without your partner’s consent can also cause hurdles in your relationship. Relationship counsellor Vishnu Modi says, “In a way, it is risky to use these products without informing your partner. Once your partner finds out the truth he or she may start believing that you are using enhancing products because you are not happy with your sex life. So, you may have to do a lot of explaining in such a scenario.”
On the other hand, using these products may also help you stay together, as Pandya puts it. She says, “A lot of people fall for someone with a good intelligence or someone with a creative mind. You may have a wonderful chemistry with your partner in different areas of your life other than the physical area. Hence, leaving your partner just because you are not happy with your sex life might not seem sensible enough. So, by having a sex enhancing product you are satisfying yourself and you continue living with your partner at the same time.”