Per­nia Qureshi

Hindustan Times ST (Mumbai) - Brunch - - PERSONAL AGENDA - — In­ter­viewed by Satarupa Paul

Are you a ro­man­tic or a re­al­ist?

At heart, I’m a com­plete ro­man­tic, but I also try to be a re­al­ist be­cause you can’t al­ways lis­ten to your heart.

What turns you on in a man?

A sense of hu­mour and hon­esty. And only in­tel­li­gent peo­ple can have a good sense of hu­mour.

What’s a bad date for you?

When some­body is dull and un­in­tel­li­gent, full of him­self and a show-off… that’s a big turn off.

If stuck on a bad date, you would...

Po­litely sit through it and never meet that per­son again. And I hope that he gets the hint.

Friends with ben­e­fits or ben­e­fits with­out friend­ship?

Nei­ther. I’m not a fan of this mid­dle zone.

What do you think is the best thing about mod­ern dat­ing?

The free­dom of choice. The fact that you get to choose who you go out with. And when you don’t want to be with them any­more for any rea­son, then you don’t have to. In my mom’s time, if you were close to a boy, you most likely had to marry him.

An old-world ro­man­tic thing that’s miss­ing in mod­ern dat­ing.

I miss hand­writ­ten let­ters, there’s some­thing so charm­ing and ro­man­tic about them. No one does them any­more.

A se­duc­tive dance form.

The tango.

A man who can dance or a man who can cook?

I can dance, he can cook.

The clothes you’d pre­fer your man to wear on a date.

Any­thing sim­ple. I’m not a fan of boys who’re su­per trendy. I don’t need a fash­ion­ista.

And what would be your go-to out­fit for a date?

A pair of jeans and a top, or a sim­ple dress. It’s im­por­tant to move the fo­cus to who you are as a per­son than to dis­tract him with fancy clothes.

The sweet­est thing some­one you like has done for you.

Some­one played a prank on me once, and although it was funny in ret­ro­spect, I’d got­ten up­set then. When I came home, there were flow­ers and a re­ally funny note to cheer me up. That was sweet. Small things are nice; I’m not a per­son who likes grand ges­tures.

And some­thing mem­o­rable you’ve done for some­one you like.

I once sent lunch to some­one at their of­fice. He was go­ing to have a very busy day and I knew he wouldn’t have time to eat.

How long would it take be­fore you ex­change house keys?

Maybe a cou­ple of months to a year – it re­ally de­pends on your com­fort level with that per­son.

What would make you ex­change keys?

It’d be more of a prac­ti­cal de­ci­sion than a ro­man­tic one.

Food or sex, which can you give up?

It’s a hor­ri­ble ques­tion! I love food so much, I can never give it up. But then if I give up sex, no­body would want to be with me. No, I’m not giv­ing up ei­ther!

One ground rule that you’d lay down for a live-in re­la­tion­ship.

I’m not a big fan of live-in re­la­tion­ships. Once you’re mar­ried, you’d have to live with some­one for the rest of your life any­way. So why give up your space when you don’t re­ally have to?

A des­ti­na­tion that evokes the feel­ing of ro­mance

Some­where beachy. It’s nice to go for a swim to­gether and then sun­bathe.

A piece of ad­vice your mother gave you on love and re­la­tion­ships that you hold close.

Never com­pro­mise on hon­esty and re­spect.

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