‘HAPPINESS IS VERY SUBJECTIVE’
Actor Arjun Kapoor says his personal life has been on the backburner since he is too focused on his career
The day he kicked off his Bollywood career with Ishaqzaade (2012), Arjun Kapoor looked set to hit the big league. Now, after five years — post the usual upsand-downs — the actor is in a good space with three back-toback money-spinners — Ki & Ka (2016), Half Girlfriend and Mubarakan. As Arjun readies for his next, Dibakar Banerjee’s Sandeep Aur Pinky Faraar, we catch up with him about career and love life.
This is your fifth year in the industry. Are you in a happy place? Do you feel like a part of it?
Happiness is very subjective. But yes, now, I definitely feel more a part of the film industry because I have done more work. Over a course of time, you figure out whether your films are working or not and whether people like you or not. Now, there is trust too and it matters a lot to me as a human being. Whether I am doing an interview, working on a film or just having a conversation, I need to feel connected.
You are officially single. It’s difficult to imagine that you aren’t finding anyone...
It is not about finding ‘anyone’ but finding the ‘right one’ and the right person for me. I might sound very calm, relaxed and chilled out as a person as far as my work is concerned but when it comes to my personal life, that has been on a back-burner, I don’t know how easy it will be for anybody to handle me at a personal level.
What’s your biggest concern in that regard?
I tend to get too obsessed with my work. I feel that not prioritising the relationship and not being able to segregate personal and professional lives; and all those other factors have a big bearing on women. It’s not easy to be with someone, who 24/7 gives attention to only one aspect of his life and not to her. I don’t expect that the other person should understand everything that I do. She has a right to be with me for the right reasons.
But of late, you have apparently been focused on only work…
Yes, and that’s why I have to balance things out. But I haven’t been able to create that balance because for the last four to five years, I have been trying to become something and so, have become habitual of being in that process. So, for me, it’s only about my films. Hopefully, next time when we meet, you will get a different answer. Also, I would like to believe that when I am in a relationship, I would be able to talk about it openly. So, let’s see.