Controversial TV actress Bobby Darling aka Pakhi Sharma talks to Riddhi Vyas about her marital mess.
Bobby Darling’s marital abuse allegations
Controversy’s favourite diva Bobby Darling needs no introduction. She shot to fame with TV gigs like ‘Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi’, ‘Sasural Simar Ka’, ‘Bigg Boss’ and has even had her moment on the silver screen via films like ‘Taal’, ‘Style’, ‘Apna Sapna Money Money’ amongst others. Controversy was always close at hand while she was in the limelight, and not far off loomed the big question of whether it was all just a publicity stunt. Whatever the answer, Bobby left it all behind when she tied the knot with long-time boyfriend Ramnik Sharma. But recently, the media is rife with reports that all is not well and that Bobby has been a victim of domestic violence and other atrocities.
Bobby’s story, in her own words…
“I met Ramnik Sharma via Facebook in 2015.
He used to woo me saying that he has been in love with me ever since he saw me on television. Initially, we became good friends but later on our friendship turned into something else. We dated each other, and then Ramnik decided to go against his family and marry me knowing everything about my past and my gender transition.”
“Everything was fine for a while but after we got married, Ramnik’s behaviour completely changed. He demanded I take him on international tours, to five-star restaurants and pose smilingly for photos and videos even though I didn’t want to do that.
“He had a keen interest in my money, property and other assets. He always told me, ‘Whatever is yours, is all mine as I am your husband’. He also demanded heavy dowry from my family, which I felt was very weird too. He purchased a SUV car with my money and forced me to give him co-ownership rights to my Mumbai flat and the same for my Bhopal penthouse property. He also wanted me to add his name to my will.”
TURN FOR THE WORSE
“Sometimes, he would come home drunk and start yelling, fighting and beating me. He would use his belt on me, kick me and hit me on my chest, legs and the rest of my body. I have still not recovered from it, am limping and unable to walk properly too. I used to cry like a baby and beg him to stop hitting me. I started losing weight and have had traumatic paralytic attacks.
“Ramnik would also fight with the security guards when he was drunk, but at the same time he used to pay them money to spy on me as he thought
“This case is unique and challenging, in the sense that it is the first time in Indian history that a member from the LGBT community has knocked the doors of the legal system as a woman after changing her gender. The LGBT community is very vulnerable in India. We need to see how the legal system will help and protect Bobby.”
– Meera Kaura Patel, Bobby’s advocate
I was cheating on him. He used to lock me up in the Bhopal flat and go off to do his work. I was hardly let out of the flat which put me into depression. He even handled my cell phone and kept an eye on who I was communicating with, and blocked my extended maternal family, so that I did not communicate with them and tell them all that I was going through.
“His friends would be drunk and would misbehave, due to which I felt he was in bad company. I also felt that may be one day his friends would kill him and brutally rape me. I spoke to him about my feelings and my fears, but he paid no heed.
“He forced me to have unnatural sex against my will.” — Bobby Darling
“We are in the initial stage of our investigation. Right now, we have called Bobby Darling aka Pakhi Sharma for a medical check-up. After doing that, we can reach a conclusion and know for certain if she really is a victim.”
– CSP Bhupinder, Habibganj Police Station, Bhopal Police Department
“He forced me to have unnatural sex against my will. My in-laws demanded that I have a child but that was not possible because of my gender transition. I was continuously taunted for this. I then suggested divorce by mutual consent. But they did not go along with it.”
THE LAST STRAW
“Finally, I really felt that my family and I were in danger, as Ramnik threatened to kill me. And therefore to safeguard my family and myself, I filed a case with the Delhi police against Ramnik Sharma, his mother and brother under Cheating (Section 420), Breach of Trust (406), Matrimonial Cruelty (498 A), Unnatural Sex (377) and Section 4 Dowry Prohibition Act.
“After suffering all this torture, I would rather call myself a widow than be called Mrs Bobby aka Pakhi Ramnik Sharma. I pray to God and request the Government of India to punish him rigorously and return all my property to me.”
RAMNIK SHARMA SPEAKS
“First of all, the allegations that Bobby has put on me, my mother and brother, are totally baseless. We have never beaten her or done anything cruel to her. Moreover, she is not a ‘Sati Savitri’ who would sit quietly and tolerate torture and domestic violence. In fact, she has raised her hand on my maids and security guards.
“She is not at all a responsible person and is after my money as she is totally bankrupt and does not have any work in hand. I haven’t even seen the Mumbai house as we were married in a small temple in Bhopal in a very low profile way. She claims she was forced to have unnatural sex and my friends would rape her, but I say what is so attractive about her that somebody would rape her?
“She claims I have circulated an obscene video of her and made it viral. If that is true, please show me the video. She claims that my family forced her to bear a child, whereas she and I both know that a transgender person cannot conceive. The matter of my family forcing her doesn’t arise. Actually, I suggested adoption or IVF treatment, but she became very insecure. She felt that with a kid in the picture, she would not have any authority on my property.
“If she was really tortured, why is she not coming to the Bhopal police for a medical examination? She claimed I demanded dowry from her parents and brother, whereas I know her father is 80 years old and bedridden. She does not have a mother and her brother has cut off his relationship with her many years ago, so who can I ask for dowry?
“She also claimed that I asked her to forcibly smile for photos and videos, but she was actually very happy. She attended many weddings from my side, celebrated her birthday and karwa chauth happily. She is making baseless claims. I think she is doing all this just to come in the limelight and gain publicity.”
Snapshots of Bobby’s correspondence to various authorities regarding the issue