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This is really embarrassing but I have to ask: Can condoms be reused? My boyfriend sometimes insists on using a condom we used in round one, for round two! I find it gross but he insists it isn’t dangerous and that we are helping the environment. How can I convince him he’s wrong?
Pia Sharma, Bengaluru
Reading this, I am grossed out, so it’s time to knock some sense into your dude’s head… environment friendly, indeed! Condoms are most definitely not meant to be reused and they can cause serious health issues. Washing them before reusing does not help either. Condoms are meant to prevent the contraction of many sexually transmitted infections. Reusing a condom can reduce its protective effect, leading to the condom breaking, slipping or leaking. Trying to clean the latex makes it more likely to break. Unrolling a fresh condom helps it to be worn securely and safely; something that cannot be accomplished with a used, flimsy condom, which also lacks lubrication post-washing. A reused condom is also weak protection against pregnancy; once it has been used, removed, washed, and re-worn. Condoms are meant to be used according to how they have been manufactured and tested. A condom is meant to be removed from its sealed package, rolled on,
worn throughout the sexual act, and at the end, thrown into the trash, preferably after wrapping it in tissue or paper. Tweak the way it is meant to be used and don’t expect it to function like it is supposed to. Never reuse a condom, even if that means using a fresh one thrice in one night for every sex act. And then, would any of us like chewing on gum that has already been chewed on and done with?!
My husband and I will be going off to the Maldives on a vacation soon and we are very keen on having sex on the beach – it has been a fantasy for both of us. Any dos and don’ts to keep in mind?
Zita Aranha, New Delhi
Love your spirit! And you are right about the dos and don’ts - keeping a few tips in mind will ensure you don’t end up regretting it during the act and later… For starters, do carry a blanket or a thick sheet to lie down on. Tempting as the thought of soft sand is, it can cause friction burns which are no fun at all. If you haven’t come prepared, it’s better to go for the woman on top position. Doing it bare on the sand could also see you ending up bitten by tiny crabs, bugs and insects that live in the sand. What’s more, sand could end up entering the vagina, which could be difficult to remove. This could also become a breeding ground for yeast and bacteria, leading to infections. In case you experience pain, spotting or itching you must visit a doctor. Some experts also recommend using mild vinegar and water to get the sand out. If you have planned your rendezvous during the day, don’t forget to slather on the sunscreen so you don’t end up burnt and in pain. Of course, you know better than to use sunscreen as lubricant, right? Bad idea, as sunscreen would damage a condom and lead the latex to disintegrate. Go make your fantasy come true!