Choose Your Options
Every day in our life, we perhaps have some kind of bad experience, big or small. There is no escape from experiences. One has two options: either to ignore them or try to react. The first option is a form of forgiveness, while the other amounts to engagement and, in some cases, even revenge. Which is the better option?
We have to decide by looking at the result, for that is the determining factor. Forgiveness is a better option for it is based on a proven formula: ‘save yourself ’. Forgiveness saves you from distraction, it saves your time, and it saves you from creating more problems. In contrast, reaction and emotional revenge means turning the bad into worse, for revenge tends to worsen the problem. If forgiveness is buying time, revenge is just wasting time without hope of any positive result.
In such a situation, people tend to give in to negative thinking, but such a reaction would be unwise. The better formula is following a self-oriented course of action. So, if you are having a sad experience, don’t think about the other party who you feel has wronged you. Think about your own self and adopt a course of action that is better for you. We are always torn between two choices: anti-other thinking and pro-self thinking. Anti-other thinking makes you descend to the lowest level, whereas proself thinking elevates you to a higher plane of consciousness.
The culture of forgiveness helps in the building of a better society. The revenge culture rules out the growth of a healthy society.