Save & Shut Those Files

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We need to click the mouse on the file­name if we wish to open it. Oth­er­wise, the file is safely tucked away, part of the many sel­dom-opened files in the men­tal com­puter. How­ever, some­thing in each one of them re­mains to be fin­ished. It may be an apol­ogy that was due. Or an un­will­ing­ness on our part to ac­cept a loss. Maybe a part of the mind con­tin­ues to deny the re­al­ity of that par­tic­u­lar event. The mer­est twinge of re­gret about a past event -- ‘Why didn’t I qual­ify for that post?’ -- is enough to bring it pe­ri­od­i­cally into our fo­cus. That nig­gling file is al­ways open in the men­tal com­puter screen. All it takes is a lull in the ex­ter­nal hub of life for the file to flash painfully across our re­lent­less mon­i­tors.

As sole op­er­a­tors of the ‘files’ that trou­ble us, we have it in our power to ‘com­plete’ those files and also save them in that folder tucked away in the re­cesses of the mind. But first, we will have to let go of some of the pride, hurt, guilt, re­sent­ment or what­ever is com­ing in the way of our ‘com­plet­ing’ that file. We will have to em­brace the loss, be it of a per­son, pos­ses­sion or our own self-im­age. Far more im­por­tant than any ex­ter­nal man­i­fes­ta­tion of our clos­ing that file is our own in­ner to­tal ac­cep­tance of all that it throws up within us. So each time you are haunted by an un­pleas­ant mem­ory recog­nise that it’s un­fin­ished busi­ness that you still have. Make use of the present to close the past.

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