Be Friends with Anger
Pythagoras says not to be angry. When he forbids you to be angry, he does not mean you have to repress your anger. He says, “Don’t be angry. It mars your happiness, it makes ecstasy impossible; it leads to nothing but utter misery.” He is simply telling us to transcend anger. But instead of transcending it, we just repress or suppress it. And this is where we make a mistake.
Repression is no solution, it cannot be. On the contrary, we will have to understand anger, we will have to watch anger. In watching is transcendence. Transcendence is a totally different process, it is an art; it is by itself an art of living. Transcendence is the highest stage of silence where supreme realisation is possible. You know only two ways to deal with anger: expression or repression. And the real way to deal with it is neither. The approach of all the enlightened people of the world is to neither express nor repress, but to watch silently. When anger arises, sit silently, let the anger surround you in your inner world, let the cloud surround you, be a silent watcher. Gautama Buddha has said that when anger arises, listen to it, listen to its message. Keep alert, don’t fall asleep even as anger is surrounding you. You will then come to realise that you are not it, but you are the watcher of it. That’s maturity, and therein lies the key to overcoming anger.