My detox therapist
IN today’s stressed life we all are in search of a paradise where we can detox ourselves. While some of us land in a psychiartist’s clinic, others try hard to start their day early in a lush green garden performing Yoga and others are converted into disciples of some spiritul or religious gurus, who with their surmons, teach and guide us the ways of elimating sorrow and stress from our lives. But, in our blind search for happiness while we roam all around the planet we don’t realise that our doctor and our therapist is near us. That is Our child, our toddler, our bundle of joy, our little MONSTER!
For me, a day out with my 4-year-old completly rejuvinates my soul and helps me forget all my worries- atleast for a few hours.
When my little monster is upto something and even if she fails to figure it out the first time, she keeps working at it and most of the times she succeeds in her task, teaching me never to give up and give a damn to public opinions and to believe in our ownself.
For me she is definately an uncut diamond, a pure stream, a storehouse of immense laughter and unlimited source of positive energy. While, watching her being carefree in dirty clothes and choclate all over her face I realise that it’s time for me to lighten up and stop taking myself and my problems too seriously, though the realisation fades soon but should actually be imbibed.
My little chuby princess - like most of her peers- is equally comfortable and playfull with my domestic help as she is with her family members, thus, making me realise that the great divide of rich-poor is the singature behaviour of only adults and the thought is completely alien to these innocent souls.
They see everybody through their innocent and beautiful eyes, and they see everybody as being equally special and important.
Almost every day, while leaving for office I have to bribe her to be obedient at home while I am out. The bribe, however, is a mere lollypop. How do these little angels find happiness in anything and everything? Just a lollypop, really? To express yourself freely is something I admire about her but totally fail to follow it myself. Just like other toddlers she would be the same misbehaved and cranky toddler everywhere be it a party or a usual day at home. Consistancy thy name is toddlers! She is the same everywhere when it comes to expressing herself freely. It’s we adults who teach them to restrict and control their emotions and feelings. Don’t cry now we are in a party? Behave, everyone’s watching! And of course ‘Why worry about tomorrow when today is here’ is the best policy for this age-group. I really envy her when I see living only for the moment.
Unfortunately, my little bundle of joy, my source of peace is very often my punching bag. On many occasions when she is happy and comes to me expecting a tight hug is reciprocated with my harsh yelling just beacuse I had a bad day. But the moment my anger subsides, I find my monster near me awaiting to cuddle me giving me a huge sense of guilt and teaching me the divine virtue of forget and forgive. And that too without being too judgemental. This is moment you fail as a parent and your child becomes your anchor. And you start being grateful for this miracle in your life and start loving all her tantrums- atleast for few hours. LOL!