THE PUFF OF CASUAL RELATIONSHIP
Todayʼs friends with benefits.
Giving a back seat to old school love stories, friends with benefits is topping all the charts. There is no denying the fact that everyone desires having this arrangement once in life. Roles, careers and opportunities have changed over time and there are now huge options for individuals that didn't exist before. This sees younger people tending to have more longterm goals that they prioritise over serious relationships. What stops us from putting a foot forward in this direction is the phenomenon of being judged by others and the uncertainty of falling into a vicious circle. Where the western countries are quite at peace with the friends-with-benefits culture, it is still a big deal for the Indian society. Still, breaking some norms, the younger generations are taking a step forward and prioritising their sexual desires over commitment and rocking the casual relationship phenomenon.
Let’s look forward to some tips on how one can maintain a healthy casual bond in this Indian society
Indian society is still following some old standards which are technically not applicable in today’s era. Keeping your relationship low key will help you live peacefully. There is nothing to be ashamed of about a friends-with benefits relationship, every one has some physical needs which they want to satisfy without being emotionally attached. Privacy does not mean you are hiding it because you are wrong. It’s just keeping it to yourself so that you are not judged by others. Sometimes comments from others disturb your mental peace, and hence keeping it private can help a lot.
The person should be trustworthy
Every relationship starts with trust and there is no difference in this case too. Both the partners in friends-withbenefits must be able to trust each other properly. This sort of relationship is more sensitive than others and is most of the time kept confidential due to it being controversial. Someone you can trust with your intimacy makes it easier and smooth for you to handle this arrangement and you can live with relief rather than being worried all the time.
Avoid it with a friend
Friends-with-benefits with a close friend is a big no in the very first place. More often than not, this kind of arrangement ends in a year. These are not long-term commitments. With friends you can end up in an embarrassing situation making your friendship sour forever. And it is not necessary you end up on a healthy note. So, being a part of the same friend circle will make you bump into them again and again which will be quite excruciating for both of you.
Do not fall in love with your partner
Sometimes it is said that one of the two partners develops feelings for the second one making it an emotional affair. Friends with benefits is meant to end one day and hence save yourself from being attached to that person because he or she might not be looking for something serious which will make you feel miserable at the end. So, it’s better to distance yourself from them as soon as you attain feelings for them because at one point of time you might just feel vulnerable.
Avoid sharing personal details
When it is just about your sexual pleasure you should not discuss about your family and personal issues. One thing leads to another and either you end up falling for that person or hating that person completely. Personal issues should be talked about at minimal level and sexuality must be explored, without seeing it with a negative perspective one must look forward to developing physically. Casual relations are not that bad if they are dealt with a mature manner, everyone has the right to lead a life the way they want to. Physical intimacy is a part and parcel of life and when you cannot find someone who matches your wavelength for a serious relationship or your ideal partner, friends with benefits can always be an option, though escaping commitments in the cover of casual relationship is a wrong idea. We
INDIAN SOCIETY IS STILL FOLLOWING SOME OLD STANDARDS WHICH ARE TECHNICALLY NOT APPLICABLE IN TODAY’S ERA. KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP LOW KEY WILL HELP YOU LIVE PEACEFULLY. THERE IS NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF ABOUT A FRIENDS-WITH BENEFITS RELATIONSHIP.
Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.