MY FAMILY, MY FRIENDS AND ME...
I am a 20-year-old college student. I live with my parents, my two elder brothers and my large joint family. I am the only girl in the family as well as the youngest.
As is to be expected, we always have a lot of people visiting us, as all of us have friends who come to visit us. One such visitor was a man whom my uncles had met at a wedding and had taken a liking to. When he had told them that he had come to the city on transfer and that he hadn’t brought his family with him, they had invited him home and after that he began to visit us frequently.
Because he cracked good jokes he became very popular with the whole family. But somehow I never liked him because to me he seemed sly and always seemed to be watching everyone and observing things about the family. So, I was rather relieved when he suddenly stopped coming home. My uncles initially wondered at this but then decided that his family had probably joined him and that he had become busy.
Some months after this, a terrible thing happened. One night when all of us were asleep, a group of thieves got into the house, sprayed us with some sort of medicine that made us sleep soundly and looted the house of everything of value. They obviously knew all about us, where we slept, the kind of locks on the doors, what valuables we kept at home and where – everything.
All of us are distraught and the police have been called in. But I am sure that the man who used to visit us is behind the theft. I have no proof, but something makes me sure. I am nervous of telling the police. What should I do?
There is a good chance that your suspicions may be proved right. So why don’t you speak to your uncles who first became friendly with this man? Tell them about your suspicions and ask them how they became friendly with this man. Had any friend introduced him to them or had this just begun to talk to him at that wedding?
Once you tell them about your suspicions, they can decide if they should tell the police about the man.
I am a 20-year-old college student. Like most college students, I am apart of a group of students who are friends. There are both girls and boys in this group and we have a lot of fun together, we study together, exchange notes and help each other. We have all been friends for three years and we know each other very well.
But there is one boy in the group with whom I have not been comfortable from the beginning. I don’t know why but I do not trust him and though he is part of our group, I avoid him as much as possible.
I have never spoken about my dislike and even slight fear of this boy to anyone, but recently I did so to a girl in our group. This was when she told me that this boy had told another boy in our group that he was fond of me.
Though I at once told this girl not to tell anyone what I had said, she told another girl who told someone else in our group and soon the boy concerned had heard what I had said.
Now, he is furious with me and doesn’t talk to me. I don’t really care if he doesn’t, but I am now feeling terrified of him. What should I do?
Young people are usually very sensitive and quick to take umbrage. So this young man is likely to be feeling a mixture of anger and embarrassment. It would therefore be a good gesture on your part to apologise to him in the presence of others in your group and say that you don’t know why you said something so stupid. After this you should make an effort to be friendly with him.
But though this may seem contradictory, you should also be careful where this youth is concerned. You say that you have never been comfortable with him and such feelings are often warnings that come from a third sense within us.
I have a very good friend whom I have known from childhood. Our parents are friends too and because of this we have grown even closer. We have also gone to the same school and college, but I have always known that my friend’s parents are not very well off and that my parents have often helped her parents with money.
Both my friend and I are good at studies and, since we have always taken the same subjects, we have always vied for the first place in studies.
Now, we both have finished our post-graduation and I have got better marks this time. We applied for jobs in the same company which has a very good reputation in our field and both of us have passed the preliminary stages of selection.
Now, I have come to know from an older friend who works in the same company that there is only one vacancy and that my friend and I are the only ones under consideration. He also told me that since I have the better marks, I am likely to be selected.
The company is a very good one and whoever is taken on will be set for life in an excellent and permanent job. But my friend needs the job more than I do. Should I give up the job for her sake? I am confident that I will get another job, though it might not be as good as this one. I plan to never tell her what I have done to ensure that she does not feel embarrassed or beholden to me.
It would be very large-hearted of you to give up this job and let your friend have it, without letting her know that you have given up such a good job for her sake. But have you thought of the possibility that your friend might have too much self-respect to accept this sacrifice from you?