TO FLIRT DISCREETLY
A flirt does not give himself out.
What exactly is flirting? Flirting is simply making someone feel that you like them in a playful way from where you can always step back or go ahead to the relationship. Is flirting easy? Yes, but only if you are not trying too hard and going easy about it or simply said you are not desperate. Keep in mind the following three things.
Reframe the situations to “She wants you”
The best thing you can do while flirting is interpret something she says as if she likes you. For example, if she shows you a picture or she dresses up good accuse her for dressing up so good for you. Like by saying you don’t have to look so good for me. But don’t do it on everything. This can get irritating and lame. While doing it remember to be funny. It’s a way out if things don’t work. Use things she likes and connect it to yourself, for example she says “I love kids” reply should be like “oh, I know I am such a kid”.
Compliment with timing
Be casual, don’t overtext, don’t just talk about yourself. Complimenting is the key to make a girl feel good around you, just wait for it. Don’t compliment anytime, anywhere just for the sake of it. For example, if you make the girl laugh out loud look at her and as soon as she stops laughing that’s your time to hit by saying things like “Gosh! you look so sexy when you laugh like that”. And with these kinds of compliments you can always add a question like “I wonder how good of a kisser you would be”?
Build sexual tension
Flirting is a way of telling someone that you are sexually available. If you don’t build any sexual tension while flirting game over it would just be casual fun you may get friend-zoned too. Remember, coming out as a guy in tune with his sexuality is cool and sexy too, but coming out desperate is creepy. To build sexual tension you have to be innovative with words and replies. For example, tell her that you have a secret but don’t know if you can tell her, and when she gets all desperate about wanting to know it say “I think you are pretty hot, I feel attracted to you” Or be funny and sexual at the same time, for example you both are up for a meeting and she texts you “I’m coming” text back and say “I’m breathing heavily too”.
My son is three and a half years old. He started speaking late – about six months ago. Even now his speech is like a one-and-a-half-year-old kid. I worry about this a lot. Could you please help me.
Some children begin speaking late especially if you, your husband or anyone in either family started speaking late, for the condition could be hereditary. Another reason for this delay could be that he is not spoken to often enough, for example, if he is the only child in a nuclear family and you are a working couple. So, either talk to him as often and as much as possible or see to it that he interacts with other children in the neighbourhood. There will be a faster and greater improvement in his speech.
As of now he speaks like a one-and-a-half-year-old child because he has to go through all the stages a child has to go through while learning to speak. One cannot expect him to speak like a three ears old as soon as he learns to speak. If need be, you could take him to an ENT specialist and a speech therapist.
I have a two- year- old son. Please tell me if there is something special that I must keep in mind so that he has the best of upbringing. I do want him to grow up into a healthy, happy and balanced individual?
The first few years of a child’s life have a strong bearing on the rest of his life. It is important that you forge a strong parent- child bonding. Both parents should give him as much time, attention and care as they can so that he feels loved and secure. Teach him things in the form of play and games so that he enjoys learning. Children of this age are very inquisitive and keep asking questions night and day. Answer his queries patiently, however busy you are, for he is most receptive at this time ad learns things quickly. Also, listening to him is as important as speaking to him. So, pay attention to what he is saying. This will improve his self-confidence and sense of self-worth.
My son is in the ninth standard. He spends all his time between school, private tuitions and at a tuition centre. I feel sorry that he is losing out on the fun and play of childhood, but I do not know how to find a way out of this situation. The pressure of studies is so much and as a parent I am ill-equipped to teach him at this stage. I did help with his homework when he was young.
Time management is of key importance. Help him make a timetable in such a way so that he finds time for outdoor activities, entertainment and rest. Intermingling with friends and relaxing is also important. Also, make it known to him that you expect him to do his best and no more.
Whether it compares favourably with others or not is of no import to you. Do not pressurise him to obtain marks beyond his calibre. Once he knows that he is not under any duress the tension will be lifted and paradoxically he will perform better for the stress of parental pressure gets automatically relieved.
I was raised by very strict parents and even beaten at times. This resulted in a resentment that burned within but could not find an outlet on account of the fear. I want to be kind and gentle with my child but would want to know that if this would be construed as leniency and the child would end up as an undisciplined brat. Please tell me what should I do?
A child responds to kindness and praise as a flower opens up to the sun. Praise for an achievement, even a genuine attempt, goes a long way in building his selfesteem. Make sure that he is worthy of that praise and do not resort to mere flattery, for that would do him more harm than good. You must also keep in mind that you’ll have to be firm when the situation demands it, so that he learns that there are limits that he is not allowed to cross.
I have a six years-old-son who does not behave like other children. He sits alone and plays alone. He does not even intermingle with his sibling or come to me for a cuddle as other children do. I have noticed that he displays a special interest in building blocks, which he can do for hours. He does not appear to be retarded and yet something is not quite right. I am very worried. Please help.
Your son is most probably a case of autism. It is a disorder for which no cause is found and there is no definite treatment. It has a gender bias being four times more common in boys. The condition could be misdiagnosed by doctors and a wrong diagnosis and treatment can do more harm than good. It will be wiser to take him to a child psychologist or psychiatrist, who will arrive at a diagnosis only after prolonged observation and questioning of parents and advise you how best to deal with the condition. A lot depends upon the degree of autism.
I have two children – a daughter aged eight and a six years old son. Whenever my husband and I have a tiff my mother-in-law tells me not to fight in front of the children, for they must be protected from anything unpleasant in life. I for one think that they should grow up seeing life as it is so that they are not in for shocks later. Please tell me.
People have a wrong notion that exposing the children to the realities of life destroys their innocence and childhood. In fact, knowledge of the facts of life makes them stronger and better equipped to withstand the ups and downs that the future holds for every individual. Of course, you need not reduce quarrels to mudslinging matches, but argue out points in a civilized manner while respecting each other’s feelings.